Again!

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Seriously cannot believe i am back. My Brother was Diagnosed with Lung Cancer and given 6 months to live. He lasted 9 weeks and passed away on the 23rd Dec.

My Dad had a CT Scan two weeks ago for his Shoulder. I went with him on Wednesday for his results. We were told he had a 4.4cm Lung Tumour, already in his Liver and Uterer. Told he couldn't get Chemo due to his age of 80 and health. Only given months. 

He took a turn on Thursday twice. I brought him round. He was taken to Hospital only as a precaution. Heart rate etc fine. I went to Hospital on Friday and he took another turn. I was told they wouldn't resus next time and to get my family in. They made it. Dad took another turn but was lucid and knew who was there until the end. Two hours later he took another and was gone. 

Shellshocked doesn't cover it. When we are told our loved ones only have Months left we are so sad. But i woukd take those Months over 2 days every time. 

  • What can I say but how very sorry I am for the loss of your brother & father. I can imagine the pain you & your family are feeling right now. I wish there were words I could offer to comfort you, but all I can do is offer my most sincere condolences to you & your family.

    god bless, & sending hugs 

    Good morning lovely people. 

    2nd CT scan on 17 April this tear (R upper lobectomy Dec. 2022) recent scan has shown my middle lobe is compressed. Having bronchial lavage on the 23rd May. Letter to GP from consultant described it as possible middle lobe syndrome,  GP unsure what this is. Regular chest infections but one in December this year & a few weeks ago really floored me. Throat is quite raw & my voice is quite hoarse. Anyone able to suggest any ideas on what's going on with me ? 

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    Former Member in reply to Indian

    Thank you so much

  • I am so sorry for you and your family, l  feel your pain, even though l will never understand it after loosing my husband Pete to cancer in October 2021 xx

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    Former Member in reply to Neve

    So sorry for your loss too. Why oh why do we not have cures for this killer Disease x 

  • Dear Lifelover, 

    I am so sorry to read your post. I remember reading when you posted about your brother and how sadly he lost his battle with cancer so soon after diagnosis and I can’t begin to imagine how you and your family are dealing with this terrible sudden loss of your dad due again to cancer.
    My husband has incurable non small cell lung cancer which has metastasised locally, he has been on combined chemotherapy and immunotherapy since July last year, he has had some severe liver reactions but is managing to tolerate the side effects. We feel we are in limbo because no one can say how long he can expect to remain with us but compared to what you have been through I feel so grateful for every extra day while he is not too ill. 
    I find comfort in quotes and poems and recently found this one which seemed so appropriate for us, maybe you too can gain some small comfort from these words…

    “The best things in life are the people we love, the places we have been and the memories we have made along the way.”

    Your dad and brother will always be there in your memories.

    With loving thoughts from Grasan

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    Former Member in reply to Grasan

    Oh gosh. I am so so sorry about your Husband. My Brother had the Non Small Cell and the Small Cell combined. 

    That us good your Husband is tolerating treatment. I know it is a small mercy but yes take every day as it comes. I am so glad they got your Husbands before it had Metastasized too far. My Brothers was in his Liver, Lymph Nodes and bones by the time he was given 6 months. I hope that is a comfort to you compared to your Husbands outlook. 

    My Dad was given months on Wednesday as it was in his Lung, Liver and Uterer. I would take months over two days. Although in the end it was Atrioventricular Block. My Dad wouldnt have wanted to decline. X