My wife’s lung cancer

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Hello  everyone, I’m new to this community, last week my wife was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer, and she isn’t strong enough to have chemotherapy, we’re going to the hospital today for a planning scan for radiotherapy, to see her so ill breaks my heart, the whole family try to act as though everything is the same as before the diagnosis, I’m just wondering how other people cope in this situation.

  • Hi Tonyshp, sorry you have found yourself here, but welcome to the group. I’m an incureable lung cancer patient, I’ve not had chemo, but I have had radiotherapy. If there’s any questions you or your wife might have regarding radiotherapy, then there are a few of us here who have had it. As to how do we cope?  For me I think it’s easier once you have a plan and the treatment has started. We all deal with it differently. I’m quite an open book, so I told everyone that I had cancer, and I think it was better to do that and get it out the way. In my house, we talk a lot, but some people prefer not to talk about their condition. My partner has been my rock and has been with me every step of the way.  I hope the radiotherapy planning went well today. 

    “Try to be a rainbow, in somebody else's cloud” ~ Maya Angelou
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    Hi Tonyshp, sorry you find yourself here and I'm so sorry your wife isn't strong enough for chemo. I'm 43 and incurable, I'm coping OK, very angry at the start but very practical as well, I have my funeral plans all sorted and paid for to save my hubby the stress of that when the inevitable happens. Initially my hubby stopped working completely to look after me but this was really affecting his mental health and so is now back part time and I see huge improvement in him. I have had radiotherapy in 3 different sites now as my cancer spread all over. The radiotherapy lasts between 10 and 20 minutes, you lie on a table and the machine does all the work, 2 nurse usually present for set up and getting you aligned but leave the room when the radiotherapy is being given, they can still talk to you tho. The procedure is absolutely painless and I had no negative effects from it at all. Feel free to jump on this site anytime, there will always be someone who can help you I promise. Initial conversations with family and friends can be painful but once you have had them you will feel a weight has been lifted. Trying to maintain normality in your lives is a good thing but so is being open and honest about feelings, whether they be anger, frustration, being frightened, try and share these and if you can't with your nearest and dearest, then that's what we are all here for! Much love and hugs to your wife. Xx