My chest xray is v suggestive of lung Ca. Being ref'd for urgent CT & urgent ref to Respiratory team. Early days but I am destroyed. Can't bear thought of telling my girls 25 & 27 as they have already lost their Dad to cancer & I had br

Good morning Rosebud22

Firstly sorry you find yourself joining this group but given your circumstances it's a good place to join right now, you will get lots of support on this forum and we are a very friendly bunch of people.

Secondly I understand how you're feeling, just take things one stage at a time, you say the x-ray is very suggestive of cancer and I see you have been referred for an urgent CT scan so take a deep breath for now and go for the CT scan and see what that reveals, whilst things look bleak at the moment they might not be so let's see what the next stage reveals for you. If it is cancer then please don't loose hope, cancer treatment has come a long way in a few short years. I've no need to tell you treatment is not easy you've been there before but it can be done. If you want to learn more about my diagnosis just tape my avatar and you can read for yourself. I really do know what you are feeling and the waiting for things to happen is hard and we all imagine all sorts of things.

You say you can't bear the thought of telling your daughter's, given that they are both young women I'm sure you will find they will be very supportive of your situation and want to be there for you, but if they need some support they can also get it from the Macmillan helpline or they can log on to the his forum as I said we are a great bunch of people who will support anyone that asks for it and that would include your daughter's. I'm sorry to hear that you lost your husband and your daughter's their dad to this disease so maybe this time a bit of support would be welcome for them. 

It's your decision about when you tell your daughter's only you will know when its the right time, I'm in no position to advise you on that, but I'm happy to lend my support to you at such a difficult time. Just message 

In the meantime whilst you are waiting for things to happen please take care and know your not alone and I'm sending you a big hug not much I know but it might help

Sending my support

Donna

Also don't kick yourself for not doing something earlier, sometimes there's no indication something is wrong and a lot of us on here have been in that situation.

Now not the time for regret, now the time for action and support

Donna

Thank you so much for all your kind words and information. 

Cindy