Feeling Emotional Today

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Hi All,

I just needed to come on here and talk really.

My Dad has Stage 4 SCLC, incurable but treatable. He has his second cycle of chemo and immunotherapy tomorrow. From the treatment point of view, apart from losing weight, fatigue and a general feeling of weakness, he has been OK. He has managed to get out and about, not for long but he’s trying to build some muscle and strength. I personally think he’s doing better than he thinks he is.

I was looking through some photos and videos of this time last year of him with my children etc and I don’t feel like I have seen “my Dad” for weeks on end, does that make sense? I see him, most days and although he looks like my Dad in the face, everything else isn’t my Dad, if that makes sense?

He’s frustrated at the moment because he can’t do what he wants to do, he feels guilty on all of us, and his spark just isn’t there at the moment. I know it will come back and it will be a long journey to recovery but I just miss my Dad.

Thanks

Lucie x

FormerMember over 4 years ago

Hi lucie

my wife was recently diagnosed with incurable lung cancer that has spread to leg and shoulder, she is on a tablet medication and so far besides a little bit of fatigue is ok, but I get so worried and seem to be crying all the time.
The pain of possibly losing her is something I can not fathom, we are both in our fifty’s and have 2 young adult children.
last night she was upset and told me she wanted to live, that she liked her life snd it upset me so much.
Don’t know what to do and I am writing to vent.
this group is the only people that could truly understand how I feel.
so yeah I feel your pain, and totally understand, it’s like a very odd situation as people you love are changing right before your eyes and the life you once had is slowly disappearing.

I am sorry for the ranting I just feel so sad all the time.

thank you for your understanding

Sal

Essex1 over 4 years ago in reply to FormerMember

Hi Sal,

I’m so sorry to hear of your wife’s diagnosis. It’s such an emotional rollercoaster, all we can do is take one day at a time.

I haven’t done this myself but you can also reach out to MacMillan support and discuss your worries, your emotions matter too. Just by supporting your wife and being there, is amazing.

I find I have days where I feel positive, I have days where I feel angry and days where I cry. Try not to think too far ahead, we all let our thoughts get in the way but take one day at a time, that’s what I’m trying to do.

Wishing you, your children and your wife the very best. Make sure you also look after yourself.

Lucie x

FormerMember over 4 years ago in reply to Essex1

Hi Lucie

When I first found out I did call Macmillan , I really needed someone to talk too, I guess I’m quite an emotional person and I just had to talk to someone, they were brilliant and so helpful.
I would recommend to anyone,

best wishes to you and your dad and the rest of the family,

and thanks it really helps to share.

thank you

Sal

Daisy_21 over 4 years ago

Hi Lucie

My husband is recently diagnosed with incurable NSCLC. I found it hard to deal with and called Macmillan and spoke to a Macmillan nurse. I felt much better after talking to them. This forum is also a great source of support. It's a great comfort to know that you are not alone.

Be kind to yourself.

Daisy

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