Hi all. Feeling extremely lost and very low . Partner diagnosed on 23rd with cancer of the colon . Large tumour they couldn’t get the scope up . Boxing Day rushed him in with abdominal pains … 2 days later had stoma fitted . 2 days later told it had spread to his liver . Dr has been amazing they’ve got things done quite quickly but feel that some of the info we’ve been given has confused us . Was told he’d probably have chemo we don’t know stage , biopsies inconclusive so now having a liver biopsy this week. Dr said that he was being candid and that depending on how bad the liver is will decide treatment but said would probably be chemo at a high dose. I asked if it was terminal he didn’t say it was histology not back that he said palliative care . I am 57 my partner now 61 and we want get married we have a mortgage so it would tie loose ends up. I asked the bowel
nurse yesterday and she said it was incurable… dr had said chemo and if effective and tumour shrink they would remove it . I’m now feeling so depressed as thinking the absolute worst and we have been told . He has a drs appt on Friday after the liver biopsy on Thursday. The bowel nurse had also mentioned Christie’s hospital when the discussion had been had in hospital 10 days ago or so . I’m so up and down worried about partner , how long has he got , the mortgage, the dogs I feelikenim going have a breakdown and I’m trying to keep positive as we’ve been told to be . My partner isn’t giving much away … he must be distraught
Hi Marella2023
It's not surprising that you're feeling lost and low with all that you and your partner have been through recently and you might find this information from Macmillan on the emotional effects of caring for someone with cancer useful to have a look through.
As you know, the online community is divided into different support forums so I'm going to recommend that you also join the carers only forum as you'll then connect directly with other carers to discuss your emotions as well as practical issues.
If you'd like to join that forum, just click on the link I've created and, once you've joined, you can start a new post in the same way as you did here and join in with existing conversations by clicking on 'reply'.
It would be great if you could put something about your partner's diagnosis and treatment into your profile as it really helps others when replying to you and also when looking for someone on a similar pathway. It also means that you don't have to keep repeating yourself. To do this click on your username and then select 'Profile'. You can amend it at any time and if you're not sure what to write you can take a look at mine by clicking on my username.
Sending virtual (((hugs)))
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