Struggling

Hello ExSappere76619 

I am Brian one of the Community Champions here on the Online Community. I have just noticed your post has gone unanswered. I can't answer it myself as I have a different cancer however, by me replying your post will be "bumped up" to the top of the page and I hope seen and replied to by other members of the Liver cancer group.

I wish you well with your Chemotherapy - we do have a group you may wish to join and here's the link you need:

Chemotherapy forum 

I must say I do tell my wife how I feel about my cancer progress (or lack of it) and she is fine knowing that I am not holding anything back and she can make plans knowing what my treatment is.

Best wishes - Brian.

Hi, I too had colon cancer. It was removed in June but I was told that there was now cancer in my liver. I am waiting for a biopsy, which is on Monday, to confirm it came from my colon before they decide my treatment. I'm in the same position. My husband has been my rock but I know he is terrified as well. I'm trying to stay cheerful but I know today for example as the biopsy draws near I've been a bit snappy. How can I tell him I'm scared there won't be any treatment options, or they will fail and I won't be here for Christmas. I feel angry, sad, scared and almost every other emotion all at once. Is this how you are feeling? 

Yes, this is exactly how I'm feeling. Surgery for my liver cancer was not an option so I am having fortnightly chemo infusions. The side effects can be quite hard at times. My wife can see I am suffering but I just put on a brave face and tell her I'm ok. If I tell her how I really feel then she will worry even more. 

I hope you are offered some type of treatment. If they offer you chemo I  would recommend that you accept. Side effects aren't pleasant but it's better than the alternative. I was told I had 6 months without chemo or maybe another 3 - 5 years. 

Hope I have been some help to you. 

You have thank you. I hope I have also helped you. Lets keep talking. We can share our feelings that we are hesitant to share with our spouses because we are going through something similar. I'll let you know how I get on.