Hi everyone complete Newbie here so please bear with me On September the 14th I went to see Dad in Hospital and have a meeting with the guy in charge of his Case , I was taken to this small room and sat down to be told the news that Dad at age 95 had Liver Cancer and that because of his age and how frail he was there was nothing they could do for him , then I was told that with the type of Cancer Dad has that they didn't think Dad would live more than 3 Months.
Some people say that I should tell him that he only has 3 Months , others say just take it day by day and that it might be longer or shhorter time, I really don't know what is the right thing to do here my heart says don't tell him just enjoy having him for as long as I have him but does he deserve to be told the truth no matter how it upsets him??
If the diagnosis is correct and he lives the three Months then he will be dying around the time of my Mum's anniversary , if the diiagosis is NOT correct then who knows how long he has I really wish I knew what to do for the best
Hi
I'm sorry to read how poorly your dad is and the dilemma you find yourself in about whether to tell your dad his prognosis or not.
I haven't been in the same situation as you, as it was me that had cancer, but lots of people with cancer do not want to know their prognosis. At best it's only an educated guess by the doctors based on their experience. However, you dad is an individual and may outlive his prognosis. Also, many people with cancer do not want to know their prognosis and your dad may have decided that he doesn't want to know.
I can see that you've posted in the carers group but you might also like to join and post in the supporting someone with incurable cancer group as there you'll connect with others who are in the same position as you. If you'd like to join then just click on the link I've created.
Sending a supportive ((hug))
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
Hi
Thanks for asking after me. I was diagnosed with melanoma 4 years ago now but thankfully, after surgery, only have to have 3 monthly check-ups now.
As to whether your dad's doctor is right with his prognosis, sadly only time will tell. The doctor's base their prognosis on previous patients but, as I said, everyone's an individual so it's only a best guess.
x
"Never regret a day in your life, good days give you happiness, bad days give you experience"
