Hello

Hi, of course you are not being silly, you are about to have major surgery.i had my kidney removed end of November so am nearly 6 weeks post op....feel free to ask any questions you have. I found the worrying about the surgery worse than the actual operation.

Awww that starts as such a nice warming story.  I hope you can find another donor for your daughter.   I can see why you are heartbroken :-(.

It's quite understandable to feel scared and have these changed emotions. The initial driver was to sustain or improve your daughter's health and instead you have found yourself with a cancer diagnosis and all the fear and worries that accompany it.  And I assume the initial problem remains.  So now you have 2 problems .  I feel for you.   

But there's lots of people on here who have been though it and had the same fearful emotions beforehand.   This is a great place for support.  No question or post is out-of-bounds.  

Thankyou for your reply may I ask how you felt after surgery and what you recommended to get back fit xxx

Thankyou for your kind words, I'm so scared of everything at the moment and emotional,  the pool has opened back up for my daughter to get a donor so hopefully be soon, I really don't know what to expect after my operation xxx

The first couple of days after were the worst, I didn't have keyhole I had open surgery so my recovery may be different....after the first day in hospital they were keen to get me up and mobile again. Getting a sleeping position that was comfortable was a bit tricky so make use of extra cushions to support you. I went in on a Tuesday and came out Saturday. Just remember to take it really easy to start with.