Hi. I am very new to posting anything online but after reading a lot of booklets from the hospital I decided to give it a go. Am hoping that a problem shared is a problem halved. I was diagnosed with kidney cancer in 2005 and had my left kidney completely removed. To give everyone out there a positive note I have been absolutely fine until April 2021 functioning perfectly well on one kidney.
At the end of March the most awful thing imaginable happened. My 39 year old daughter who had no underlying health conditions collapsed with an aneurysm. She battled for 2 months but tragically passed away in May 2021. We are beyond devastated and am typing this in floods of tears. The pain in my shoulder was very painful and I was referred to a chiropractor. After 6 sessions it became obvious that it was something more serious.
I was referred for various scans which have shown a secondary large mass in my shoulder which the consultant has said is from my 2005 kidney cancer. What a shock that was. I have a pre op on Friday and hopefully an operation very soon after. It is too near vital organs to get it all but they are aiming to get as much as possible then high dose radiotherapy afterwards. It’s been good to write this down. I’m not sleeping well so this is a distraction. Thanks for reading and good luck to you all in your own battle. As I said earlier I went years and years living a great life and you can too.
Hello Gooner,
I am glad that you felt able to post online as I am sure you will find support in this group.
i can't imagine what you are going through right now .... I am sending you love. and a big hug x Have you received any bereavement support as this may help you. I have attached a link that you may find useful
I hope that your pre op goes smoothly and your shoulder op and radiotherapy too.
Please keep us updated.
Love Jules x
PS Thank you for your positive comment about living with one kidney etc, you are clearly a very thoughtful person, thinking of others in the middle of your own pain.
Thank you Jules. I wish everyone on here a positive outcome. Lack of sleep now is a problem. I haven’t had any sleep at all last night. My brain just wont relax at the moment, luckily I am retired so can have a little snooze when I want to. Am hoping to hear today or tomorrow when the op will be. I am pencilled in for next Tuesday so let’s hope that happens. Take care everyone xx
Hi Jules. Thank you for your lovely message. We have decided as a family to get me through the cancer treatment and then as a family get some bereavement support. It’s just all too much really but we must be strong and pull together. Our daughter was one in a million so I will fight this for her. Off for a snooze now as didn’t get a wink last night. Take care and stay safe xx
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