Feeling very hurt

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  1. Hi susiewoozy here ....I was diagnosed with kidney cancer on 16 th June 2021 also two large blood clots one in each lung .  It was a terrible shock I had gone into hospital for breathlessness I couldn't breath and was awaiting a appointment for heart failure but after loads of tests the doctor sat on my bed and said I'm very sorry but I have some really bad news for you you have kidney cancer the shock was so great I immediately discharged myself I just had to be in my own house, in my own home with my two cats.  Nothing as been decided since at present I am on antibiotics for coarse crackle in my lung. What hurts the most is not seeing any of my children since diagnosis I was hoping even a family with disagreements would come together at a time like this, am heartbroken.
  • Hi  and welcome to the Online Community. I am so sorry to read of your diagnosis and the fact you're facing this on your own. You would think that when someone tells their estranged family of their diagnosis it would be sufficient to mend bridges and moving forward provide emotional support at a time when you need it - sadly from what I've read on different forums this isn't always the case.

    You have however joined a supportive group here so I'm sure the member's will be along soon to welcome and offer you a helping hand. I've tagged the Community Champ of this group so no doubt she'll be along soon to welcome you.

    Sending you welcoming hugs, B xx


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  • Hi Susiewoozy, read your post hope your feeling better back home with the cats ,so difficult getting the bad news I hope the family will reach out to you in this difficult time .I was diagnosed with kidney cancer in January thinking I had kidney stones 6 months later and one kidney removed back to pretty much normal .it will get better all the best Ry

  • Hi Susiewoozy, 

    I am so sorry to hear about your diagnosis but also your family problems. Like you, I am estranged from my parents and my daughter. I reached out to my mother but got absolutely no response so I can fully empathize with your feelings of heartbreak. I hope they find it in their hearts to make contact with you so that they can support you through this difficult time.

    Take care

    Deb xx