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Hi Bedazzled789 have you spoken to a Macmillan nurse in "ask an expert" on this site.? Phone 0808 808 0000.

It's no wonder you're feeling anxious tbh! 

Hi Buttercup01 thank you so much for your reply. Yes I’ve spoken to a Macmillan nurse she was very helpful. I’m just waiting on my GP to call. As you say the fear of the unknown is the worst part. Hopefully we’ll see the MDT soon and my husband will give a treatment plan. He’s being so brave while I’m falling apart. I feel so helpless. 

HiBedazzled789

Don't be,so hard on yourself. It's a shock to you as well. Sometimes it's worse for the partner than for the person with cancer 

Hi Buttercup01 I’ve just spoken to me GP who treats my depression she was amazing as usual she understands how I feel. I need to try to remain positive and step up for my husband. I’m grateful again for your reply the fear of the unknown is definitely the worst. 

Hi I was diagnosed with kidney cancer about the same time as your husband ...it was such a shock...I too suffer from depression it is very hard I find to get your head round this as happened to YOU.....that you are the 1 in 2 you keep hearing about on TV...sending sympathy and love to you both hope all goes well .

Hi Susiewoozy thank you so much for your reply I’m really sorry to hear about your diagnosis. It’s an absolute shock and I’m just the carer. I hope your depression isn’t to bad and your treatment for your cancer is successful. Sending you sympathy love and prayers. 

Hi bedazzled sorry took me a while to reply have not been too good and also had problems logging in.....still how are you both doing have you any more news ....I have rung mcmillan a few times which really helped and have also a crisis number I can ring through the night. It helps just to know they are there ....so really I have understanding of both the cancer and the depression....if there is anything I can help with even just to stay in touch you have a friend here and probably many more on this site x

Hi Susiewoozy I’m so sorry to hear you haven’t been feeling to good but I’m pleased to hear that you’ve reached out to Macmillan especially having a crisis number you can ring through the night. My hubby hasn’t been to well he’s lost his voice it’s been six weeks now he’s also having blinding headaches and a terrible cough coughing up phlegm. One side of his face has already been scanned but his GP has ordered another scan. We have our first meeting with his oncologist on Monday morning. I’m allowed to attend they have made an exception as he should be on his own due to Coronavirus restrictions. Needless to say I’m very anxious but my GP has been looking after me prescribing some extra medication for me. She also rings me one a week. Please keep in touch thank you so much for your friendship. X

Hi sorry to hear of your husbands problems its very worrying for you both what is happening I too had problems with my voice when I first got home from hospital but it gradually got better but it was very difficult not being able to talk at the time when I was diagnosed with kidney cancer was also diagnosed with two large blood clots one on each lung I've now been told I have a coarse crackle and fluid in my lung am on anti biotics to see if they help. Am so glad they are letting you go with your husband to his appointment its awful to be on your own and often difficult to remember all what's been said if you have any questions its best to write them down so easy to wish after I should have asked that ....Good luck please let us all know how you get on ...I do so hope its good news.x