Having gone through a really tough time this year, namely the cancer diagnosis of Larry the Lump, then losing my partner's mum, and subsequently him losing his job, I would have thought that's where the bad luck ended. Fast forward a few months, and having the most awful gremlins in my head, the mental health has suffered immensely - and now my partner threw the biggest bombshell - he wants to end the relationship! We've supported each other through so much, and then I've got this to contend with. Back to blooming square one. I am literally broken, don't want to eat anything, go anywhere or see anyone. Literally broken beyond measure. I can't do life anymore.
Hi Betsy
It sounds like you have all had a really tough time and I am sorry that you are now dealing with the break up of your relationship on top of everything else. I am pleased that you felt able to reach out on here for support.
I understand that this must feel like the last straw and that you are under huge pressure. It is natural for relationships to be under huge stress when facing one major crisis after another. I know the pressure my diagnosis put on those closest to me and I was not dealing with any of the other things you have been through this year.
I know that when I feel upset or stressed then I tend to withdraw a bit and also can't be bothered to eat. Could you put the kettle on and have a cup of tea and some toast- sometimes little things can help.
Have you got one person that you can confide in about how you are feeling? Even if it is just to text. I know if I had a text from a friend saying that they were having a rubbish time- I would want to know and I would want to help. You clearly have been helping others this year through real challenges, now is the time to let others support you.
Do you have any support for your mental health? Do you have a number to call when you are in crisis? Do you feel able to speak to your GP to get some extra support put in place. Do you have a supportive CNS that you could confide in?
I am going to put some links below that may be of help.
Macmillan Support Line is available every day from 8am-8pm and you can talk in confidence to one of the nurses. They are lovely on there and will understand.
Urgent support - Every Mind Matters - NHS
Samaritans | Every life lost to suicide is a tragedy | Here to listen
Shout: The UK's free, confidential, 24/7 mental health text service | Shout 85258
How to seek help for a mental health problem
I understand that things feel tough at the moment, but we are here for you.
Jane
