Embarrassing effects/symptoms of my kidney cancer

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Hello everyone- I'm new to this forum so I hope I can get some advice with my difficult problem...I'm finding it very difficult.

I have inoperable renal carcinoma- owing to co-morbidities I can't take drugs and I can't have surgery. I've been under 'surveillance' for a ehile now. I have a scan every little while then the doctors the situation with me.

I'm finding this like a death sentence hanging over my head. Psychologically almost impossible to bear, especially as I have responsibility for my son who's autistic and who relies on me massively for my support.


My problem is that over the last 6 months or so, I've developed an extremely high libido- my sex drive has gone sky high. I suppose it sounds a bit 'funny' but it's not really, I can tell you that. It's incredibly frustrating. There's no-one to talk this through with and to offer me some help/advice how I deal with this.

I'd like to ask, with all respect, whether anyone else has this promlem too and/or what I can do about it.

By the way, I'm an older man and married, but my wife.....well, let's just say that I can't really discuss it with her!

Good to meet and talk to you all. Love and best wishes with your own situations.



  • Hello   A very warm welcome to MacMillan Cancer support and to the online Community. I have just come across your post and am so sorry to find you haven't received any replies. It may well be that no one on the Community has had the same issues.

    I can't answer your questions as I have a different cancer, however by me replying to your post it will be "bumped" up to the top of the forum and will come to the attention of forum members.

    Just reading your post I have a few suggestions:

    * Have you talked to either your G P or Consultant regarding your issues?

    * How about asking your questions to one of our specialists. You can use Ask a Nurse . If you click on the link provided you can post your question to one of our specialist nurses - I am sure they can help.

    * You did say your son is autistic and needs you for support. If you talk to our helpline on 0808 808 00 00 (8am - 8pm 7 days a week) I am sure the wonderful people there can point you in the direction of additional help.

    I hope the above is of help - if I can do anything else for you please don't hesitate to contact me.

    Best wishes - Brian.

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  • Hi Borleyboy,

    Welcome to the community sorry I cannot be much help to you but as Brian has said that if you contact the community nurses and help line they will be able to answer your questions, do you have an oncologist who is able to help you, my one is great I am off treatment for the moment as my last lot was damaging my kidney and the tumours are growing, I hope you will be able to get some help maybe something to help, take care and try to stay positive good luck Sandy

    Sandra 55