Hi, new here..
I was diagnosed with a small tumour on my left kidney after a scan for another issue, 3 months ago. On diagnosis I was given 3 options and was expected to decide there and then..
Wait and see, Ablation and Nephrectomy.
I didn't feel I was given enough time to think about my options so decided on the Ablation as I felt I was being coerced into that by the consultant and my husband.
I walked away, spoke to my family and friends, did a lot of research and decided I would rather have a nephrectomy (please dont judge).
Now when I contacted my Urologists secretary to inform them of my decision I was told that was fine and a referral will be made to the surgeon performing the op! Now fast forward a few weeks and I had another appt with my urologist again and he's still trying to persuade me to go with the Ablation. I stood my ground and finally he has referred me but he made it clear that they will continue to try and change my mind...???
Why can't they just accept my decision?! If this wasn't such a serious thing I feel I'd rather just walk away and leave it. I really don't want to have to battle to do what's right for me.
What can I do?
Hi PK
I am currently faced with the same three options and confused as to what to do and i guess that's natural.I haven't felt as yet that i am being pushed to much down one route but the inter team meeting of hospital experts did recommend cryotherapy as the way to go,based on my tumor size (14mm) and in light of possible compromise of immune system after major surgery ( ie Robotic assisted PN ).
Part of me felt that the choice they made was because of COVID19 and the outcome if I were to get it,not that that would be definitive and i did ask that question and was told ultimately I could choose,without prejudice to have either treatment.
I sympathize with your predicament and hope you have had in the period since your message had a satisfactory outcome.I am still at this time none the wiser after reading some online material suggesting higher recurral rates with cryo but then buoyed by some reports that the act of cryo ablation may trigger a more positive immune response for any recurring cancer they may occur elswhere.
regards
Ian
Hi
Being that I have a small tumor in my right kidney and facing similar options and having similar fears,I am curious as to what option you chose in the end.?
regards
Ian
Hi I had a robotic partial nephrectomy back in February. Recovery wise it has been plain sailing really.. odd bit of pain now and again but nothing major. I don't regret my decision to go with the operation as I felt it was the best option for me.
Good luck
I had a full nephrectomyin feb. I was recovering well, consultant said they got everything and I was really positive. Do not dismiss anything that makes you feel like something isn’t right. I suddenly started being clumsy and dizzy. I was diagnosed with inoperable brain tumour - kidney metastasis it had spread???? In April. Now since Jan, cancer and coming to terms that I’ll never see my children grow up.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts my friend.
I am sad to hear that your cancer has spread and to think of how you must be feeling.I always wanted children but it never seemed to happen for me.
When I hear of such things happening to people with kids,well I can't imagine how that must feel and my heart goes out to you all.
Sadly I know so many young people with cancer now,when I say younger I mean in there in their 40-50's,some of those with children and you just don't know what to say.
The thing is we always say to live for every day,every ounce of time, especially with and around our families,these things are precious and no more so than for you.
Make as many memories as you can for them now and Live Strong...
IMT
Ian
Hi , when they say inoperable brain tumour, can they not use cyber or gammaknife? This will depend where it of course. Or what about immunotherapy?
I had cyberknife in 2013. recently had gammaknife, followed by immunotherapy.
Hi. Had gammaknife, but the tumour/swelling doesn’t appear to be subsiding. Keep trying to cut down on the steroids but struggling with that too. It’s in my midbrain/pons so affects feeling in hands, feet, face, eyesight and mobility. I just feel like why me. I’m 45. Feel like my life has been stolen from me.
Have they not suggested immunotheraphy as a follow up?
I know is doing OK with it. I
can well understand your feeling your life's been stolen from you n you only 45. Don't know,what to say.
Was your surgery in scotland or elsewhere in the Uk and who was your surgen.?
My Surgery was at Castlehill near Hull, my surgeon was Mr Youssef
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