Not long to go, and met my speech therapist today.

Being stoic will hold you in good stead, Nora. But meltdowns are allowed. Look after yourself and don’t worry about the family. This  us your time. Best of luck 

Hi Nora. Nothing wrong being stoic, my oncologist said he would cure me and take a year out of my normal life he did both. I took attitude can’t  worth about stuff I’ve no control over. I did my blog ss I had control over that. That’s not ti say some  days I was up crying on kitchen floor when treatment started plus some days I spoke quite cruelly to my husband who took over all household stuff for months. Speech and language people are worth their weight in gold when  you get exercises do them i did mine in car going to hospital. 
Hazel 

You're fine to be stoic.  I only had a hissy fit twice.  Once at Christmas lunch  shortly after my diagnosis and once when I seriously thought I had a second reoccurrence a few months back.  Other than that I've taken everything in my stride, but my wife... that's a different story.

It is great that you've got a very supportive husband.  As to the rest of the family, once treatment starts I am sure they will find it easier to reconcile what is happening and they will be able to accept it.  It must be scary for them - I know it was more scary for my family than I found it.

Hi Nora

 I am glad you are coping with your diagnosis and there is nothing wrong with being stoic. After the initial shock of a cancer diagnosis how you cope is a very individual thing. I decided I had 2 options to either go to pieces or to be stoic and like you I chose the latter. Not to say there weren’t a few meltdowns after my operation when I felt low in spirits. Don’t be surprised if that happens to you too as you start to cope with some changes in your life. Go with what works for you and you will get through this stage in your life. Getting an early diagnosis is half the battle.

Wishing you all the best for your operation and recovery.

Lyn

xx

Update to above:

First thank you for replying to me, I am feeling very weird right now like I am not real with could yet again be my BPD or could be due to having been diagnosed with cancer and going in for surgery on Tuesday. I had my pre op assessments for both ops yesterday and good news I don't have to go in on Monday but early on Tuesday so one more day of normality or what passes for normality these days considering I have gone to more hospital appointments in the last hospital appointments in the last month than in the last 10 years!

Still stoic... spoke to my mum by video call this morning which I think made her feel better to actually see that I still look like me.  I feel a vague anxiety about not being at home to make sure everyone, well Hubby and the cat, will be okay but this is just anxiety on my part. I know everything will be okay. So yes it's still getting closer and like a child looking forward to Christmas but with out any presents and definitely no Christmas Dinner! 

Hi Nora The reference  to Christmas dinner made me laugh. My treatment finished 31 August and I did manage a Christmas dinner on a tea plate instead if a dinner plate. Take any positive s that this throws you an extra  day at home is a bonus. Glad yiur mum saw you via video. 
Hazel xx

Hi Hazel,

Always good to raise a laugh, we all need a laugh that's for sure.

Yes I am very happy about the extra day and night in my own lovely bed... I am not having any trouble going to sleep so I take a lot of positives from that.  I am anticipating that my Christmas dinner might actually consist of mashed sprouts. mashed potato, chestnut puree and gravy by the time it comes around.

x Nora x

Hi Nora Make it mashed sweet potato  far easier and you’ll not be far off, many if us struggle with mashed potatoes we all think they are easy but they tend to be one of the grails.I’m fine with them now lashings of gravy always helps.

Enjoy your extra night in your own bed  

Hazelx