Crying

Hi Basbas

So sorry you are feeling down at the moment. Unfortunately it is very common for many of us after a cancer diagnosis, going through treatment and even after the treatment has finished.

It is the coming to terms to the change in your life that takes time. I know when I got my diagnosis I felt devastated and thought ‘my life was not supposed to go like this, I had something quite different mapped out and everything is different now’.  I felt quite low for a while and there were definitely tears involved.

I found with the support of my family, my medical team and this great forum that I got through and I know that you will too. It definitely helps to write down any questions, concerns and feelings on this forum as everyone is so supportive and non judgmental. It helped me knowing that I was not alone with this battle and there were so many others out there who understood exactly how I felt.

Hang in there and realise that your feelings of despondency will pass given time and support. If you really can’t get on top of things over time it might be worth going to your GP and asking for a short course of antidepressants. It is not weakness to ask for help.

Sending you lots of positive thoughts and hugs.

Lyn

Hi Basbas 
Sending you a big hug. I was very calm when I got my diagnosis on the Thursday. On the Friday night I was in a hotel room with my husband as I was doing what would be my last Triathlon for a while as my surgeries had been scheduled. I sobbed all night, I was frightened, angry, felt sorry for myself. My husband wanted to take me home, but I refused and made myself do it. It spurred me on to think I can do this. The biggest help was this forum, my family and friends were brilliant, but couldn’t understand or give the advice that the good people on here gave me, and the unwavering support. If you feel sad lonely frightened bob on here, and you will receive a virtual hug. X

Thank you 

Hi Barbara. It’s pants the way our lives are turned upside down. Like Lyn says. Our lives turn out to not as we planned. I’m retired and we have a small holding. There was so many things I wanted to do after working hard all my life looking after others. The hardest thing to accept is that you actually can’t do anything about it. It is what it is. I put my trust in my team to get me through. They do this every day and are good at it. They do this every day and go home to their families and come back to do it all again. I don’t know how they do it. That’s what kicked me into believing I could too. 

And I did. 
So will you. A day at a time a melt down at a time ( and boy I had a few of those) 

Hang on. 

Thank you 

Hi.  Meltdowns are allowed even little miss positive ie Me had meltdowns. I went to my own funeral in my dreams ir nightmare. I was sometimes up at 0330 crying in the kitchen floor. I like Dani has said before coukd have said any me but in the other  hand why not me  if everything is too much quite a few have had mild anti depression tablets  head and neck cancers are hard to come ti terms with just remember they also have excellent resukts in cure  

just rant  on here we never judge as we’ve all been there done it 

Hugs Hazelmx

me. 

Thank you