Hello you lovely people,
I'm a 52 year old single dad of young twins.
Yesterday, my dentist said he was referring me for a biopsy of the apparent ulcer on my tongue.
This came as quite a shock.
For about 5 months, I'd had sharp teeth irritating my tongue and mouth.
Eventually, I went to the dentist. Never even considered anything sinister.
A month ago, he filed down one sharp tooth and scheduled a follow up appointment.
At this new appointment yesterday, he filed down the other sharp tooth I'd identified, then talked about the referral.
He said my ulcer was "quite large" and hadn't healed in the way he'd expect.
Ever since that moment, I've found myself almost frozen with fear, as if I've actually received a diagnosis of mouth cancer.
Which I know I haven't, but what I do for a living (as a writer) involves imagining worst case scenarios. Really doesn't help.
Neither was a GP especially helpful when I went to see her yesterday afternoon. She couldn't give me any perspective, or any odds, or any reassurance really, apart from to say it was "promising" (I think that's the word she used) that the lump on the side of my tongue hasn't bled and is painful.
She also made vaguely positive noises when I told her I have what might be lichen planus elsewhere on my body.
Really glad to arrive here to chat with people who've been where I suddenly find myself now.
Looking through some of the posts, I can already see people in my exact position and it makes me feel less neurotic.
I can't decide whether this thing being on my tongue makes it better or worse. After all, I can SEE it. I'm looking at this thing and wondering if it's cancer.
I'm just still at the point where I'm tearing up at the thought of having to leave my six-year-olds behind. This can't happen.
Tomorrow, they're coming to stay for the weekend, so I need to pull myself together. Thought I'd come on here and also allow myself one day of worry and self-indulgent comfort food, ha!
Wine may also be involved.
If my situation once applied to you, or still does apply to you, how do/did you feel?
And did anyone decide to go private, to speed up the biopsy? If so, did it actually speed anything up, in your experience?
Right... I think that's more than long enough for a first post. Thanks for reading. :) :( :) :(
No not professional and they aren’t now.
The team used to be called Thatto Heath and to join the super league they had to ally themselves with a men’s team which was St Helens.
https://www.saintsrlfc.com/2018/01/12/quintet-sign-st-helens-women/
Dani
Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019
I'd been told that this takes you out of your troublesome thoughts and anchors you back into your physical self.
It’s a sort of reflexology. The Chinese call it Tap Shek or something like that.
Dani
Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019
Hi Debbie - absolutely, Saffy will be an amazing distraction - from the moment her owners open the front door, Saffy will do a lap round Ellise and me, then just straight up into the back seat of the car - ready to go.
I can’t remember if I’d said anything, but Ellise had appt with the doc this week, to get results from tests for suspected cancer - brilliant news , Ellise is ok.
you are so right Debbie, as we all know and experience, it’s the waiting and not knowing - this next appt and the biopsy’s from the throat, fills me with trepidation, especially as my next stage could be throat operation by robotics and neck dissection. Still try to remain positive and focus on our goods news for Ellise.
That’s quite a distraction with you son emigrating, which pastures is he heading for ?
sorry to hear that your husband is still struggling with sleep - wish I had wise words to help there, but I guess it’s quite personal to each of us.
I know what you mean about trying to be ‘positive’, I wish I could send you a dose of Ellise, the girl is amazingly positive and so supportive for me. Fingers crossed that you guys get some good positive news soon.
sending you both strength and positive thoughts and hugs - Nige
ps please give the furry Leons’ hugs from us too.
Hey Gill - we’re about 3/4 minutes from the actual beach/coast side , just love the coast.
I’m actually from the midlands, I moved down to Brighton about a month after meeting Ellise, the rest is history so they say. I adore living by the sea on the coast - I am one who enjoys the really rough seas etc.
You are so right about Saffy - her owners are made up with the fact that they have us who love Saffy as much as they do
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Thats the same with all the scamps we look after - I always joke with the dogs owners that when I return their dogs back to them, it’s only ‘on loan’ till we pick them up again.
have you started getting into the games yet ? I remember you said to our SBG fella that you liked the Hobbit game ? That struck a cord as not so much the game but the book - it was one of the first books ever that one of our junior school teachers read to us and he was a master at the voices - his ‘golem’ voice built up such an image that never left me, to the point of the films , the image I had built in my mind was exactly the ‘golem’ in the films - amazing !
hope you guys are having a good wkend-
hugs and strength / Nige
She is there. Dawn
Now I'm wondering if Stan's daughter was among the quinte
Dani
Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019
