cancer madness

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being diagnosed seems to be bringing many awful memories to the surface, regarding my experience with my mum and her cancer, she was sadly misdiagnosed so they were treating her for something completely different, i was her full time carer for 2 and a half years, it was chaotic, traumatising and many mistakes were made by the professionals, i had to watch her go from looking healthy to turning into a skeleton, who couldn't do anything for herself, by the time they diagnosed the cancer it was too late, she couldn't have treatment as it was too far gone, so she wasted away, i stayed with her up to her death which still haunts me now, i have mostly buried, how horrendous those times were, but, now being newly diagnosed myself, it seems to have opened a dark box and i keep getting flash backs to things that happened, so i think that is why i have taken it quite hard, i just see my mum at every turn.

 

  • Hi again. I’m not surprised you feel this way and it’s perfectly normal. You’ve been diagnosed, things will get moving pretty quickly and once your treatment plan is in place you will feel better about it. The treatment is a challenge but it’s doable and 90% of us are cured. 
    It sounds as if you would really benefit from some counselling. Macmillan offer six free sessions if you feel that might help. 
    If you’re not sleeping that will make you feel even worse. Lots of us had sleeping pills from our GP. That might help too 

    Dani 

    Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019

    I wrote a blog about my cancer. just click on the link below 

    https://todaymycoffeetasteslikechristmasincostarica.com 

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  • Dani 

    Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019

    I wrote a blog about my cancer. just click on the link below 

    https://todaymycoffeetasteslikechristmasincostarica.com 

    Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm

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  • Hello, you are mirroring exactly what I’ve gone through with my mam I lost her 2 years ago now.

    I have been diagnosed myself , not the same cancer as my mams, but I understand what you are going through.

    Just a kind word - You are not alone. Revolving hearts

  • I have been diagnosed myself , not the same cancer as my mams, but I understand what you are going through.

    Hi again. Did you manage to contact your CNS? 

    Dani 

    Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019

    I wrote a blog about my cancer. just click on the link below 

    https://todaymycoffeetasteslikechristmasincostarica.com 

    Macmillan Support Line - 0808 808 00 00, 7 days a week between 8am-8pm

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  • thank you Airam and i am truly sorry that you too, are going through the same thing, mine too is a different cancer, but, i don't know if you are having the same, but i get a lot of flashbacks to my mum and what it was like looking after her whilst watching the metamorphosis of her and her personality diminish, please, if you ever need to chat i will listen, it is awful just being diagnosed, but going through caring for a parent who had it before you is hard to put aside at times