Dad has throat cancer and is visually declining

Hi Lisa

I am so sorry to hear of your father's deterioration. It is really hard when someone who has been so integral in your life is declining in their health. My father recently passed away at the age of 98. He had a wonderfully long life and although he did not have cancer he slowly declined over a few months, hardly ate anything and just faded away. It was so sad to see it and even though my brother and I encouraged him to eat and made the food he liked he would only eat a few mouthfuls and then decline any more. It was hard to watch. Like us you can only remember the good times when your father was healthy and cherish the memories. Our father had to go into care eventually because he became so weak. Before that we used to take it in turns to visit daily and had a carer from one of the agencies visit too as he lived alone. We also got him a personal alarm that he wore all the time so he could get help if needed. Would your father allow a carer to visit him daily to heat up some food and encourage him to eat a few mouthfuls? You can only be supportive and be there for your dad. He will appreciate it.

Sending you hugs at this hard time.

Lyn

Thanks so much for your lovely message Lyn. Yes getting a daily carer is a great idea and I will try to persuade him. Thanks so much and so sorry to hear about your loss too xx