Had referral to hospital

Hi Transpol and welcome to the community. So sorry you've found yourself here.

You've found yourself at the very worst bit of the road. Waiting for a diagnosis is hard, really hard. The only thing you can do is keep yourself busy till you have some sort of idea of what's happening. Most referrals are not cancer so hold onto that.

Having said that, a swollen lymph node is a classic presentation of tonsil cancer. I'm saying this because I'm sure you've hit Google already. My advice from now would be to leave the Net alone. You'll frighten yourself with inaccurate and out of date information.

Most tonsil cancer is HPV+ve and treatable and curable, so another thing to hold onto.

Good luck with your referral and I hope it comes to nothing, but if it does stay with us, there are a lot of helpful people here that have survived and thrived

Best wishes

Thank you for your response I have taken it on board just to be able to say it to someone really helps thanks again 

Hi Transpol. Welcome from me as well. Dani has given sound advise. Do keep off Dr Google it will scare you silly. The waiting’s the worst part try to keep busy   Sorry to hear about your husband hope you’ve some family around to support you. I was told most referrals aren’t cancer but it’s the quickest way to be seen. 
Any questions ask us on here. 
I am 3 years 4 month post radiotherapy for tonsil cancer with several affected lymph nodes 

Hazel xx

Thank you for responding I feel that I’m not alone you have given me hope I am truly grateful 

Hi Transpol and welcome from me too.

I was diagnosed with base of tongue cancer in May 2018.  I did scare myself silly with googling tongue cancer before I'd seen my consultant for a proper conversation on the treatment!

There are lots of us here who have had similar diagnoses and been treated successfully so you'll find plenty of support should you require it.

All the best.

Linda x

Thank you for getting in touch. I am so anxious I feel sick and don’t want to eat I’m sure it was the same for a lot of people. I keep reading what you all have said you all are so brave I feel very inadequate. Sorry to go on I just feel down. I’m just 73yrs old and have 5 grandchildren all under 7 they don’t have a grandad and I don’t want them to lose me. Thank you Linda   .regards jenny x

Hi Jenny. Just hang in there   I have a 11 year old grandson he was 7 when I got diagnosed. He kept me going while waiting for diagnosis l. I wouldn’t allow myself to get upset in front of him so we did normal nana stuff . Hope you hear something soon  on the pathway you should do within 14 days in normal times. We’ve been promised that csncer wont take a back seat this time. So please chase via your g p. 
Hazel

Jenny hi. Try not to get ahead of yourself, at the moment cancer is a possibility, nothing more; you're going to be seriously unlucky just to get a diagnosis.

But if you draw the short straw, as we all did, you'll get a huge amount of support and head and neck cancers are very curable. I've been around patients (in real life and on here) for eight years now, must've interacted with hundreds, and I can count the number of people who've succumbed to it on one hand with fingers to spare.

Not easy by any means but sounds like you have a great family behind you, and they're not going to lose you! I have ten grandchildren from sixteen down (watched one of them do a dance performance in a proper theatre this evening, wonderful) and they were obviously much younger (and fewer) when I started out, so I can empathise with how you feel.

Cross the bridge if/when you come to it. If it happens you'll have the tools.

Thanks to hazel and mike you have just lifted me up and I feel a lot better sorry for feeling sorry for myself. I will definitely try harder thank you 

Hi  Jenny  feeling sorry for yourself is allowed just not all the time. Just pop on here when you need to. In meantime enjoy the grandkids. We have 3 step grandkids via son in law one of them nowhas 3 little girls all under 5 ! 2 of them born while I was in recovery  

Busy Christmas ahead  Hazel