Tongue cancer

Hi Man City Well done in getting tonthe  year mark and not needing any radiotherapy,Am sorry to hear about your twin sister and  your  elder sister .Guilt is ok  I’m but am sure they would want you to continue to live your life you've been given a 2 nd chance grab it with both hands. My husband and I for years have lived by the mantra one life’s live it  and this  was well before my cancer diagnosis.

welcome to our community as well

Hazel 

Hi Mancity01 and welcome.

I think we all feel guilty about surviving cancer in whatever form it takes, even if only occasionally. 

I've had 5 ops now and no radiotherapy or chemo.  Do I feel guilty about not following that particular pathway just at the moment??  No I don't; instead I feel lucky that I am where I am and have the big guns in reserve for if/when I need them.  I can assure you that others look in the opposite direction across the fence and feel lucky they have not had the surgery.

Try to enjoy life as much as you can and give your twin sister hope that you can come out the other side of cancer with a good quality of life.

Hi Mancity. It’s fairly normal to have all sorts of reactions to having cancer but there is a way out. 
Have you read this excellent essay by psychologist Peter Harvey? 

www.workingwithcancer.co.uk/.../After-the-treatment-finishes-then-what.pdf

i don’t feel guilty that I have survived and others haven’t. I spend a little time here and in a support group to help others through this cancer and one thing I have learned is that although we are all different the drive to survive and live well is a strong one 

For the  first few months after treatment ended I felt despondent and lost but i realised that there was no point living under a cloud and I had a life to live. 

The other thing to consider is that you may actually be suffering depression  

There is no shame in reaching out for help and a short course of antidepressants might just tip you over into recovery  

Have a read if the article too It makes a lot of sense 

Goid luck

PS 

there’s a group here on Macmillan called “Life after Cancer” where folk discuss how to cope after treatment. That might be worth joining too. 
community.macmillan.org.uk/.../life-after-cancer-forum