Husband has tongue cancer and in lymph nodes - really scared

Hi welcome from me were a small friendly group now you’ve found us stick with us. I’m almost 6 years tonsil cancer  plus 7 lymph nodes treatments hard but I did it am sure you’re hubby will as well. I had 35 radiotherapy and 2 chemo mine wasn’t operable.

my blog below Will help with the radiotherapy. There’s us a group on a popular social media site but depends if hubby is under 60 to join  sorry if that sounds vague we can’t post the link  

but search young  tongues if applicable  

Hazel 

Hi Inshuti 

Although I had radiotherapy this sort of surgery is beyond me so I’ve asked a friend Panch to pop on. She had exactly the same 

Hi there. This was me in October 2020. I had 1/2 - 2/3 of my tongue removed and reconstructed from my calf (tho most are from inner forearm).I kept the tip, tho it circled over slightly in the middle . My lymph nodes were clear but I had a neck dissection anyway as that is where cancer is most likely to spread. I was 55 at the time.

it is absolutely doable - tho nobody would pretend that it’s easy; he will need a lot of support, but for me at least, the swallowing wasn’t too difficult. Speaking-wise - I sound like I have a bit of a lisp.

i’m more than happy to “chat” directly if you like. I’ll add you as a contact so we can DM

Thank you -its just good to hear from someone at the other end of this. Feels like we are in a dark cave. Thank you for shining a little light. 

Thank you so much!

Good evening Inshuti, I am sorry to hear about your husband's diagnosis, like most of us as soon as the word cancer is mentioned we start to worry, some more than others which is understandable, to be honest, my initial diagnosis of cancer to the floor of the mouth and a bit of my tongue knocked me for six as it was the first time i had been to a hospital and never knew that head and neck cancers existed.I have had three big surgeries with reconstruction all in different parts of my head and neck the only way i managed to cope was to be as positive as i could and take each day as it came because you will find each day is different, some good some not so good.Its surprising how well the head and neck area heal up after surgery with great recovery and cure rates. You and your husband will find out that its like a jigsaw where everything comes together, it may be rough at times but with the skill and dedication of your husband's consultant plus the team of nurses and doctors. Most of us here have been through surgery/treatment of one sort or another and come through it in our own way. Wishing you and your husband all the best for the upcoming surgery,, take care.

                                                                    Chris x

Thanks Chris. Positive stories like yours will keep both my husband and i going. We are taking each day as it comes, nothing for it but this forum is very helpful for us!