Advice re: Bone mets

Hi Kath88,  welcome from me.  I honestly don't think I can answer your question, not offer any useful advice re treatment or outcomes.  I just wanted you to know that your post is not being ignored!

I think the best you can do is have a detailed conversation with your clinical team with your father's consent, preferably with your father present.  Hopefully from that you will both know what his options are and what the prognosis is.  Then you can give him your fullest support to help him achieve his personal wishes regarding treatment and outcomes.

Good evening Kath88, im very much like Peter and cannot offer any advice as it does not come up much on here, i would have thought they could offer some type of treatment. I wish i could offer better advice, wishing and hoping for a positive outcome when you meet the oncologist/consultant. Best wishes,take care.

                                                                                                 Chris xx

Hi Kath

While bone mets from Tonsil cancer are rare they do occur and there will be a protocol so please don't think you'll lose your father soon. Both chemotherapy and radiotherapy are used in treatment, the first to slow progression and the second particularly to control pain. Do   make sure you understand exactly what his team will do. I'm sure something is possible. 

Let us know how you get on

Hi Kath 88 welcome from me as well. As Dani says don’t give up hope there’s all sorts if protocol out there. Take a pen and paper to oncologist meeting and don’t leave until you’re sure if what they are saying. If in doubt keep asking questions. 
pop o. Here as and when  to update or rant. 
Hazel 

Thank you all for your replies. This has come as a huge shock to us all. He had a back issue on and off for years but mostly very active and had no reason to think it was anything other than that as he seemed otherwise fine.

He seems resigned to the fact that he thinks he will die very soon which I am finding difficult as I would like to think they may be able to do something to provide quality of life and extend his life.

We have no clue as to whether this is a new cancer or the existing one, however, checks and scope with the last one bring done in May showed no sign of reoccurance albeit no scans were done.

It feels like torture waiting for an appt to come through from oncology (GP referred us on Thurs evening). I contacted his ENT team who said they will try to get us in but not heard back yet.

I feel like every passing day things will be getting worse and there might not be abything they can do. 

Thank you all for taking the time to respond it's so overwhelming. 

Hi Kath88 Did yiur dad have a dedicated Macmillian or cancer nurse for original diagnosis. I find mine even 4 years post treatment always willing bro help if I need her. Recently I had to contact her about a referral and she helped , luckily the referral proved to be unnecessary but she was at the end if an email if I needed her. Maybe you could try to contact on Monday ?

Hazel x