Scenario ------
You're sitting having lunch with a group of people or you have just been introduced to someone
You notice a lump on their neck
Knowing what you know or have been through, do you point it out, or leave it at that?
Hi Linda, that's what brought it to mind. We discussed this yesterday. It would bother me,I would probably have a wee touch (with their permission). My wife wouldn't want to put somebody through that worry, then I changed my mind. So many IFS ands bits .
Paul
Hi knowing g what i know now i would deffo point it out and then say of course over 95% are nothing but inwas I enjoy if the 5 % who was diagnosed with a cancer .So please get a dr appointment time yiu can getbut checked out. I had mine with hindsight at least 9 weeks of me thinking oh its nothing ive pulled my neck . Maybe I woukd have been stage 1 and nit needed the chemo instead of stage 2 with several affected lymph nodes.
Like everything it’s all up to the individual
Hazelx .
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Gosh that’s a tough one! Think I’d have to say something. Knowing what we all know now then I think we have a moral obligation.
Looking back, Ken had the lump about 4-6 weeks before we did anything about it and then when he made a GP appointment, he didn’t explain the urgency and was given an appt 2 weeks later. So all in all 8 weeks before he saw a medical professional.
He did keep asking me and the kids if the lump on his neck had always been there but we honestly couldn’t remember. I was going through a breast cancer diagnosis at the time so Ken didn’t want to worry anyone and just wanted to concentrate on my surgeries and treatments.
We should have done something sooner and indeed if we had told the GP he had a lump in his neck the GP would have seen him the same day as that’s what they did when I rang about my lump. The receptionist tried to fob me off but I stood my ground and told her that google indicated I needed an appt that very same day lol
Sharon xx
Hubby - Left tonsil squamous cell carcinoma P16 positive with neck nodes T1N1M0 - 30 fractions of radiotherapy and 6 weeks of chemotherapy, Cisplatin in December / January 2019/20
Me - Invasive lobular breast cancer - Grade 2, Stage 2 - mastectomy October 2019 - 15 fractions of radiotherapy December / January 2019/20
Errrrr
“Kind words butter no parsnips” springs to mind
I’d be straight in there and say to get checked out. Never mind any potential upset if it saves a life.
Same for lumps you know where.....Mind you that is well in the past, probably what got me in trouble in the first place
Sorry mods..... delete as appropriate
Dani
Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019
I agree I would have to say something. I only mentioned the lump as already had GP appt about ongoing sore throat. Got seen within 2 weeks (only because of previous breast cancer. ill health, so got fast tracked). The ENT guy said "if only everyone was as quick at asking if lumps like yours were an issue, like you have, I wouldn't have to tell so many people there is nothing we can do". That comment has stuck with me. Diagnosed June 2019, confirmed after scans July, Op in August. They did let me go on 2 short holidays, just said I couldn't sit on it for the next 6 months.
Tricia
Ha ha Beesuit
Not heard that saying before! And yes......you’ll be getting into trouble!
Sharon xx
Hubby - Left tonsil squamous cell carcinoma P16 positive with neck nodes T1N1M0 - 30 fractions of radiotherapy and 6 weeks of chemotherapy, Cisplatin in December / January 2019/20
Me - Invasive lobular breast cancer - Grade 2, Stage 2 - mastectomy October 2019 - 15 fractions of radiotherapy December / January 2019/20
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