Mum has stage 4 throat cancer at the primary site which has spread to both lungs. We given 4-6 months prognosis on 29th Oct. Mum has recently finished a very short blast of radiation on the aggressive throat tumour and we are approaching the end of week 4 side affects from radiation.
We have some consultations approaching with oncologists and other specialists. Mum’s beautiful and brave way of coping is not wanting to know what’s coming next. She doesn’t want to dread the next stage. Whilst I whole heartedly support mum’s Strength and way of coping, i feel in the dark about what’s coming and feel the need to know to prepare - or is this unhelpful to the situation, I’m lost?!
How would I go about finding out what to expect Next? Should I ask if mum doesn’t want to know? Feeling confused, scared. What have others done in this situation. New to this amazing platform and so grateful in advance of any support.
Nor Berry is right
Your mums consultant will tell you everything you need to know in confidence.
so sorry you are both in this spot.
Dani
Base of tongue cancer. T2N0M0 6 weeks Radiotherapy finished January 2019
Good evening RKing , so sorry to hear about your mum, i remember when my mum was ill and we were told that there was nothing they could do, she like your mum did not want to know what lay ahead and I'm glad she did as she had a lovely life and wanted it to stay that way full of great memories. As the lovely people on here have said speaking to your mum's consultant should not be a problem and does not need your mum's permission. Sending reassuring hugs, take care.
Chris x
Its sometimes not easy but its worth it !
