T2 NM0 Grading 3 - no treatment

Hi Mags42. Sorry to read about your mum and hope we can help you in some way. You say your mum is not fit to have treatment. Why? Has she just become weak through not eating or is there some other cause. If the former then the hospital should be dealing with her nutrional need. Is she at a major cancer centre or a local hospital? I presume she is under an oncologist and this non treatment opinion has come from them.If not make sure you are dealing directly with whoever is making the decisions on her behalf. You ask how this will progress. We are not medical people and can't answer that question. We can only point you in the right direction to help you through the process. Battling this cancer is a fight but it can be done and that includes people of your mums age- I am one if them. My best wishes to you both.

She is very frail - they didn’t really want to do the endoscopy, it was just the last thing on the list to work out why she had lost so much weight and couldn’t keep food down. The difficult thing is that whilst in hospital she has been able to eat, despite no actual treatment. I think it is because she normally lives on her own and can’t actually look after herself very well now and being looked after has made a lot do difference. She has osteoporosis and a prolapse as well. She is at a London hospital but we haven’t spoken to anyone from oncology or the gastro doctor. They are keen for her to go home, so that has been to main topic of the conversation, rather than treatment, as they said she was just too frail to withstand any of it. 

This sounds like a very difficult situation where the key to the debate is the quality of life for your mum. All you can effectively do is ensure that she receives the best medical advice available. You may find it of help to contact the Macmillan support line. Again,my best wishes to you both.