Just been given 6 months

Hi Jack,

So sorry to hear that, having gone through so much already, you have been given such devastating news. It is the dread that always lives at the back of our minds. I hope that you are able to find a trial which will have greater success or at least give you more time. 

Hi Jack

I’m so sorry to read this, what a horrible shock for you and the family. I know it doesn’t help but you’re not alone as my husband is being treated for a recurrence and whilst initially the chemotherapy kept the disease stable for a few months it’s now spread along the outside lining of the lungs and the tumour that has regrown at the new join has got bigger. He’s had a break from chemo for 6 weeks and he’ll be starting a new drug next week. He’s already very tired and thin so we’re both a bit worried about how he will cope but he wants to give it a go. He’s been given 12 months with treatment if it works and 3-6 months without! 
There are more details of our ‘journey’ on my profile.

Sending you lots of strength at this difficult time.

Jane x

Hi cool blue

Thank you for your message.

Im so undecided at the moment as the consultant said 6 months with treatment. This leaves me with the dilemma of continuing with treatment feeling absolutely awful or deciding to switch everything off.

As you can tell I’m all over place and contradicting myself.

It’s the dread , like you say,and the waiting, whether it’s the results or for the inevitable.

I hope whatever is challenging you in your life isn’t bringing you too much pain an you have support x

Hi JaneD

Thank you for your reply. 

I’m sorry to hear about your husband, it’s just such an awful existence whether you’re on treatment or not especially when you’re given a time as the worry and what if’s takeover your mind.

If I’m honest I’m getting to the stage ,after 2 years of treatment, that I need a break for at least a month. My consultant told me that it’s time to get affairs in order which I can’t do whilst sick and don’t want to leave it all to my wife who I also exhausted emotionally but continues somehow to be my rock.

So I suppose the big question is do I ever go back on treatment as the chemo and immunotherapy have both failed or do I accept my fate and at least be myself?

I’ve got the hospice nurse visiting me on Monday to discuss my options there, I know this sounds like I’m giving up but I’m just exhausted from all the treatment and bad news.

I do hope you’re husband gets on better with his new drug.

wishing you all the very best x

Thanks Jack for your kind thoughts. Taking a break seems very sensible and thinking through what’s best (rock and hard place comes to mind!). We’ve done a bit of that too and I’m half prepared for Paul to start the chemo and then stop because it’s too much to cope with after all he’s been through. 
I’m concerned about how tired he is before he’s restarted but we’ll see how it goes. 
keep in touch and all the best to you too. 

Jane x