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Hello everyone … 

So 7 years ago my step dad was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer at the age of 76. Despite his age he ended up having chemotherapy which made him so poorly and ended up having the operation to remove the stage 4 Cancer it was all hard for us all as a family to go through this but 5 years later he is out of remission. 
we couldn’t believe it as you can imagine. 

Unfortunately in september 2023 he had started to be unwell throughout the year. Losing weight very fatigued etc 

We then found out as a family that the cancer had returned, the oncologist seems to think that a cell may had stayed there but this time was sitting above the liver and below the heart which was putting pressure on his heart. 
the last few months he has deteriorated massively he has not gone down to 7st 9 we have district nurses in and care as myself and my mum have been looking after him. 
They said it’s slow growing but we have noticed a change in him and how quick he has gone down. We also have a hospital bed etc now. 
on Friday we found him in bed and a lot of black vomit, he was rushed to hospital on blue lights and sirens and he is currently in there as I write this. He has an infection and isn’t eating or drinking much. 
The hospital seemed to think it could be a slow bleed or to do with the cancer but no scan been done as of yet. 
He had a x Ray and CT scan due to falling in hospital yesterday. He is too weak to have treatment again so refused radiotherapy. I wish we knew how long we had him here for, I just can’t get my head around it all. Life is so cruel despite someone’s age. 

if anyone has had this black vomit or has had a family member go through similar id like to hear from you. 

take care Rachel 

  • Hi Rachel do sorry to hear about your step dad's recurrent cancer diagnosis. He really doesn't sound very well at all but if he's in hospital, he's in the right place.

    I don't have an answer for you about the vomit issue but it sounds like blood in it to cause the discoloration. Sounds as if the hospital are indicating this too.

    I just wanted to let you know that members of this forum are out here listening and that your family is in our thoughts and prayers.

    I truly hope they find some treatment to help your dad get better.

    Best regards


  • Hi Rachel, 

    Sorry for my delayed response, how are things at present?


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  • Same .. sorry for late reply. Been hard at home my step dad out of hospital now but so agitated really confused shouting at us having my mum up all night etc. Not sure if he is brewing infection again as not drinking. This is not him. He is such a proud man and so lovely so sad to see. 

    How are things your end 


  • Things have been very manic, and I apologies again for my lack of timely response, my husband has been going through some issues of his own. 

    It can be very difficult on all people in the family during the challenges of this terrible disease. 

    I am sorry that this is what you have all had to experience. 


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  • Unfortunately last Friday we lost my step dad .. all the family we around him. We are absolutely broken as a family as you can imagine. 
    the pain we are all going through at the min is the worst pain I’ve ever experienced in my life 

    why does cancer have to effect the nicest of people 

    Rachel xxx

  • Dear RachelW1986

    I am so very sorry to hear your sad news. This is what all of us battling this horrible disease fear most, that it may return in the future. I hope the fact that you were all able to be with him when he took his final breath provides some small comfort to you. Cancer is a nasty, insidious disease that often strikes completely at random. I wish you strength and fortitude as you deal with your grief. 

  • Dear Rachel, 

    I am so sorry to read your news, and from your words, can imagine how devastated you all are, I hope that you manage to allocate some time for you, as I am sure you will be there for your Mum, as you all try to understand the Why's.

    There are other forums on this site where people who have also recently lost their loved ones, can come together, maybe just for somewhere to vent or to share special stories of special people.  You can find the link HERE if this is something you feel you would like to reach out to at some point.

    I am sending you strength at this extremely difficult time, there are no real words that can take the pain from you, I do hope you have, or can find support when you need it. 

    Lowe' x

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