Hello everyone …
So 7 years ago my step dad was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer at the age of 76. Despite his age he ended up having chemotherapy which made him so poorly and ended up having the operation to remove the stage 4 Cancer it was all hard for us all as a family to go through this but 5 years later he is out of remission.
we couldn’t believe it as you can imagine.
Unfortunately in september 2023 he had started to be unwell throughout the year. Losing weight very fatigued etc
We then found out as a family that the cancer had returned, the oncologist seems to think that a cell may had stayed there but this time was sitting above the liver and below the heart which was putting pressure on his heart.
the last few months he has deteriorated massively he has not gone down to 7st 9 we have district nurses in and care as myself and my mum have been looking after him.
They said it’s slow growing but we have noticed a change in him and how quick he has gone down. We also have a hospital bed etc now.
on Friday we found him in bed and a lot of black vomit, he was rushed to hospital on blue lights and sirens and he is currently in there as I write this. He has an infection and isn’t eating or drinking much.
The hospital seemed to think it could be a slow bleed or to do with the cancer but no scan been done as of yet.
He had a x Ray and CT scan due to falling in hospital yesterday. He is too weak to have treatment again so refused radiotherapy. I wish we knew how long we had him here for, I just can’t get my head around it all. Life is so cruel despite someone’s age.
if anyone has had this black vomit or has had a family member go through similar id like to hear from you.
take care Rachel
Hi Rachel,
Sorry for my delayed response, how are things at present?
Lowe'
Things have been very manic, and I apologies again for my lack of timely response, my husband has been going through some issues of his own.
It can be very difficult on all people in the family during the challenges of this terrible disease.
I am sorry that this is what you have all had to experience.
Lowe'
Dear Rachel,
I am so sorry to read your news, and from your words, can imagine how devastated you all are, I hope that you manage to allocate some time for you, as I am sure you will be there for your Mum, as you all try to understand the Why's.
There are other forums on this site where people who have also recently lost their loved ones, can come together, maybe just for somewhere to vent or to share special stories of special people. You can find the link HERE if this is something you feel you would like to reach out to at some point.
I am sending you strength at this extremely difficult time, there are no real words that can take the pain from you, I do hope you have, or can find support when you need it.
Lowe' x
