My dad

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This is my first post here.

my 83 year old Dad was diagnosed with lower oesophageal cancer which has spread to his liver on Monday. He can’t have an operation because it has spread and we are waiting for an oncologist appointment to see if he is well enough for chemotherapy. 
I’m not feeling very optimistic about this as his age, he’s had a triple bypass, prostate and bladder cancer which he is living with, and is Diabetic. He’s not the fittest as you can see. He didn’t really have any symptoms. He was taken into hospital as he collapsed in town and we thought it was his heart. They found out he had internal bleeding. This has now stopped. 
Everytime I see him I think he’s losing weight, his appetite isn’t as good as it used to be 

We are finding it difficult to find things for him to eat as the hospital just said a soft diet. 
He’s home and my Mum is struggling as is my daughter. He has been like a Dad to her. I live alone in a different town but trying my hardest to keep strong for them. 
I want to find out as much as I can so I am prepared for what could happen 

thanks for reading and any help and advice will be greatly appreciated 

Sending best wishes to you all 

  • Hi my mum diagnosed end of Nov completely out of the blue had trouble swallowing that's it they won't operate on her they have started chemo but that's all she's been offered they said its in her lymph nodes I'm terrified that my mums gonna die she's literally all I have the oncologist said months how can I believe and take this on board 

  • I’m so sorry Catherine 37. 
    How many sessions of chemo has your mum had?

  • Finding soft foods is difficult at first but mash with butter and gravy, jackets with lots of butter, custard tarts, Ambrosia chocolate custard, tapioca, semolina, blancmange and soft trifle, porridge, soups, M&S macaroni cheese, soft boiled eggs with Warburtons Danish bread toast and butter, soft scrambled eggs, all these were my dad’s favourites. You might also try some of the companies that make ready made soft foods dinners. 

  • Dad liked Ensures on porridge for breakfast (particularly vanilla, banana and chocolate) until they became “too sweet” for him. 

  • She has had 2 rounds of chemo so far at hospital 3 hours each followed by 21days of tablets I think they will scan her soon and then take it from there sorry to hear about your daddy fingers crossed he's well enough for chemo it's so awful x