Hi there my name is Evelyn and my husband has just had his first chemo. He is to have 8 rounds of chemo but an operation isn’t an option. Fingers crossed it will shrink the tumour. I try to stay strong but sometimes it’s hard. I’m anxious all the time . Ev

Hi Evelyn

I am sorry to hear this news about your husband. I started this journey with my husband on 21 Jan 2022 and we are still going through it. Try and draw some comfort from the fact that you are not alone. It can help a little. I also suffer from anxiety and its very understandable during such uncertain and frankly, frightening times to feel this way. One mantra I find helpful is: "Inhale courage; Exhale fear". You can say it in your head as you breathe in and out deeply.

Another thing I have learnt is that the anticipation of something is often worse than the event itself. So you have to train yourself not to think ahead too much. Its just not helpful. When something difficult actually happens, you surprisingly find the strength and resources from somewhere to deal with it in that moment. You have to believe that you will find the strength you need when it is required. Tell yourself this and concentrate on what's important right now. Your husband needs you to be there for him right now as he starts his treatment and that is something you can absolutely do for him.

I really hope for the best for you both . 

Kind wishes and hugs to you.

M

Hello Evelyn, Im in the same place as you and its hard. Anticipating the what ifs. My partner is also inoperable but 3 days after his first round of chemo and immunotherapy he could eat again. Everyone reacts differently so try not to think the worst, there are people out thete who get good results. I have joined a couple of Facebook, its helped me. 

1. Hello Evelyn Please don’t feel alone I am in the exact same boat as you . My lovey husband is also inoperable, had his first Chemo last week and unfortunately for him it has been a dreadful week  wi aches, pains and such extreme tiredness . Neither of us were truely prepared for how brutal Chemo can be but we put our faith in that it is working hard to do it’s job  My arms go out to hug you and all the others caring for their loved ones .By supporting each other we will continue to be strong for them … it’s a long hard and sometimes lonely journey but you can always reach out on here and someone will catch ️

Thank you very much …. I hope your husband maybe feels better as he builds up a tolerance as he goes on. It’s a long and hard journey but if we stick together we can help one another. It’s good to chat someone who’s going through the same experience. Love and hugs to you and your husband. Evelyn 

Hi there Evelyn, I'm in the same position as you. My husband was diagnosed at the start of August, T4, spread to lymph nodes and liver, inoperable. He started chemotherapy 2weejs ago, has 6months booked up. We are hoping that it will slow things down, chemotherapy is to

My husbands chemotherapy is to prolong his life, still trying to get our heads around it all, having a really bad week. I know how you feel. It's hard trying to stay positive and strong for him. Some days are better than others. So glad that we have this group, it's easier to text than talk about it at the moment. Sending love and hugs. Xxx

Sending love and hugs right back at you……. Sometimes this all feels so surreal but you’re right it is good to have this group. My husband and I were at the hospital today, he’s to get a scan in two weeks time to see if the tumour is shrinking…fingers crossed. My husband has always been a positive person and try’s to stay upbeat which I think helps him but everyone copes in their own way..no right or wrong way. Take care of yourselves 

Evelyn

Hi Evelyn. I do hope that you have good news in a couple of weeks.. My husband, like yours, has always been active, never been out of work. . He's found it hard to adjust to not being able to work, as well as coming to terms with the diagnosis. Like him I am still trying to come to terms with the diagnosis. He had a stent fitted a month ago, been so sick with the chemotherapy this week. 

It's so hard to see him like this!!! This last week has been particularly bad for both of us. 

Hope today will be a better day, for me, my husband and you and yours.

Yes I hope so…… I really hope your husband feels better. It’s hard to see the one you love go through this. We will all stick together and support one another, take care the two of yous and remember you’re definitely not on your own, we are all here xx

Hello everyone jousting popping in to share a little sunshine . As I have previously posted hubby is having a really rough first cycle of Chemo ... well today is a good day and even managed to stay awake for a few hours and even enjoyed a short car journey . We have a week until the next cycle but every good day is a bonus and we all need those . Let’s celebrate each other’s bonus days they give us all hope