My partner was diagnosed August with O C cancer it’s been a very traumatic build up . His GP failed to refer him for an endoscopy, which resulted in us paying private !!
he’s been through so much and not being able to even drink water most days . His tumour is incurable, however he has started chemo to try and shrink it . It’s spread to near by lymph nodes also as latest pet scan showed . His personality has changed he’s become withdrawn from myself . He blew up the other day and has left me saying he’s a burden and he wants me to have a life .
I want to be by his side as I have been … I don’t know what to do as he’s moved back to his moms . I’m so lost and broken by it all . Has any one else experienced this ? Any suggestions would be greatly received . Thanks for listening .
Hi Heartbreak123
Welcome to the forum, I know how much of a shock it is to be the partner of a loved one with a diagnosis, and I am really sorry to read that your partner has returned home to his Mum's, and left you not knowing how best to support him now.
I don't know enough of your relationship to say too much in the way of suggestions, but I will say that it is my thought that the only thing for you to do is to go and knock on the door of his Mum's home and ask to speak with him.
Your partner is in shock, he is in his mind trying to protect you, and he has just reacted in the only way he knows how.. I do hope that in the days since you wrote this post, you have managed to communicate with him and begin moving forwards on this journey together.
My husband has incurable OC, diagnosed May 2020, there are more months, days and hours ahead than we are first told by our specialists if we can remain positive.. I hope that your partner can find a way to reach out to you.
I hope that neither of you give up hope.
Good Luck
Lowe'
Aww Thanks so much for getting in touch . Firstly I’m sorry to hear you’re going the same type of cancer . It’s a cruel one at that
im pleased to say my partner got in touch we had a long heart to heart 
️ he explained that he was a burden and didn’t want me and my son to see him deteriorate. He can’t seem to get that he will die out of his head, although I always remain positive for him . And yet dying inside . I’ve contacted his G p now as I think he’s very depressed. They are going to keep talking to him . I’ve also contacted Macmillan for 1:1 counselling, I feel this will help massively . Thank you for replying means so much .
I wish you all the luck too . Speak soon xx
It is early days isn't it, and it is understandable that your partner (and you) will fear that this disease may take him.
Very much depends on the aggressiveness of the OC that your partner has and how quickly he experiences benefits from the treatment that he is given.
I have met many different people here on this forum, some are still here and others are not, their experiences were all different even though the common factor was the OC, hopefully your partner will be able to see that not everything that google, or the oncologist for that matter, say will be right for him, he has the power within him, he must fight and find the positive stance which will help him through the difficult time ahead.
My husband was given a prognosis of 12 months, that was with treatment, we are now on month 18, he is very "well" considering his condition, he eats and drinks almost everything now, obviously it was not always that way.. so he has amazed everyone and I hope your partner experience similar.
Good Luck, happy to chat here if it helps in anyway.
Lowe'
I have to say he’s eaten a very small Sunday dinner today .U could of cried my heart out . I’ve been off work all with stress .I’m back tomorrow. Wish me Luck x.
You might not think it, but work will be good for you! something to get in the way of everything that has taken over your thoughts over the past weeks.
Great to hear about the small Sunday dinner, a real positive step 
Good Luck tomorrow, you will be fine
Lowe'
