Dads diagnosis October 2020

Hi, firstly I want to say I’m so sorry to hear about your dad. It’s the word you never want to hear!

I’m 32 and my dad has been diagnosed out of the blue as well. When I went in to his appointment with him and they said he had cancer I zoned out. All I thought was why is this happening. 

It has always been me, my mom and my dad as well so we are in a very similar situation. We find out Tuesday if my dads cancer has spread and if we are going to be offered a treatment plan.

All I will say is it’s ok not to be ok sometimes, people will say be brave etc but they don’t know the pain your going through. No one will ever understand unless they have or are going through a similar situation.

Stay as positive as you can, have a laugh with him, watch films with him, take everyone’s mind off what is going on.

Try and forget what might be to come, you can’t change that. Just enjoy everyday with him. 

Sam xxx

Hi,

I am so sorry to hear about your dad, I am 24 and recently received similar news with my dad. I was the same as you where I went through a phase of just not believing it and not wanting to talk but I suddenly realised how much of an impact that was having on me, I started to do counselling through my university which I found helped me so much and I have now come to terms with my dads diagnosis.

I would definitely recommend using as many services as possible for support it is amazing how much talking to someone outside of your circumstances can help. Likewise I am going through exactly the same as you and if you ever wanted to talk privately my messages are open and I would be happy to chat with you!

Have the hospital been able to fit a feeding tube to help with his eating and losing weight? As my dad had one fitted and it was amazing the difference it made. I would also recommend that he drink smoothies, you can either make them or buy high protein ones that will help him to maintain his weight and also give him energy. 

I am always here to chat if you need anything,

A x