So so scared help

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Hi. Mum had endoscopy 2 weeks ago almost and dr said there was a tumour and it’s likely cancerous. Mum had ct scan Tuesday and was called back into hospital the same day as the scan had shown quite a large blood clot in her chest. she was then told the cancer has spread her biopsy’s from endoscopy are back confirming cancer and it’s touching the liver then the doctor the next morning said it’s advanced and not curable but treatable and it looks like leisons on the liver? Mums just been discharged from hospital tonight I’ve read her discharge papers and it says palliative chemotherapy? What does this mean? Are we going to loose her we’ve only just lost our dad last year we’ve just had his one year anniversary on Boxing Day just gone. I can’t deal with this 

  • Hi Sam, I am so sorry that you are going through this and for the loss of your dad. It must be a very scary time for you right now. I am sorry that I can't answer your questions, but did find that Macmillan have a section on here about "not curable but treatable" https://www.macmillan.org.uk/about-us/treatable-but-not-curable-cancer  If you can, speak to your Mum's doctor to get some more clarity as reading the discharge papers won't give you the full story. Take care, Di

  • Hi Sam. My husband has also been recommended palliative chemotherapy. This is not the same as 'palliative care'. The idea, as I understand it, is to provide treatment to extend life and to hopefully provide some quality of life, whilst not attempting to 'cure' the cancer as such. It is devastating but while there is a glimmer of hope, it is at least something to hold on to. I wish you and your Mum all the very best.

  • Hi, my husband has not long been diagnosed and is also palliative, we are waiting for results to know which type of chemo he will go on. It may be different for your mum but for us it means it's not curable by an operation etc but it is hopefully manageable with treatment to give quality of life. It all happens so fast doesn't it, which makes it difficult to deal with. Keep using this forum, it has helped me by reading others stories and knowing I am not as alone as I feel. Sending hugs x