My Beautiful Nan

Hi Rach,

Can I ask if you know what grade your beautiful nan was given regarding the tumour.?

And may I ask whereabouts the tumour is?

This may shed light on how the oncologist came to these decisions.

And I must stress, I may be able to give you some answers, but I think your GP could get the report from hospital & give you an expert opinion.

Also I thoroughly recommend that you get in touch with your local hospice nurses. They will give you probably the best support you can get.

And they will not pressurise you, but they do a whole host of services which your nan will benefit from, both emotionally & physically. You may need your GP to get you a referral but they get back to you very very quickly. And it's all on a first name basis, they are your friends.

I know how you feel Rach, try to relax & get the ball rolling with what I have suggested.

You are never alone on this forum.

My best wishes to you both,

Graeme.

Thank you very much for you reply and support 

the tumour is in the lower part of the oesophagus 

unfortunately I haven’t got as far as asking what grade the tumour all i

no it’s local and not growing

on the outside ,maybe that’s a question i

Will ask tomorrow

she is still In hospital awaiting a stent fitting

on Tuesday but she has been let down by them

a few times now ,but we obviously have to be considerate to the times we are in . 
A McMillan nurse has been round to see her but unfortunately we haven’t had the chance to speak to her as a family with the no visiting rule 

once again thank you for you kind words and information 

Hi Rach,

Did you find out what grade the tumour is?

No rush, I'm here all week with anything else you may want to know.

Graeme.

Hi Rach,

Just a quickie to see if you are ok?

Everyone on this forum is here for you, & we all know different info we can give you, you are not alone.

PS: Did you get the grade of the tumour, it's very important & will open up many answers for you.

Best wishes,

Graeme.

Hi Rach898

I am truly sorry to read about your Nan, and was wondering if she is now out of hospital?

I understand your sadness on both level, i.e. the diagnosis, and the information that surgery, radio and chemotherapies are not an option. 

My Dad is 82 and was diagnosed with a cancerous stomach ulcer at the end of last year, he was put in for surgery but the anaesthetist refused to put him under for fear of the likelihood that he would not come around afterwards, so like you I understand the no surgery option.

He was given 5 rounds of radiotherapy and in all honesty, I sort of wish this had not been given... Dad's deterioration has been swift, the side effects of the radiotherapy which were not immediate have been gruelling and I feel this has taken some of his last hours/days/weeks and turned them into a nightmare, barely able to move from his bed and wasting away daily.

I know this may not be the same for Nan, had she been offered treatment but sometimes treatment is not the best thing.

My Husband was diagnosed with oesophageal cancer in May 20 and he has had treatment, but we have also found the blending smoothies with foods that are high in anti-oxidants have been really helpful, there is no scientific proof that they do much but they definitely do something.

I am so sorry, that I cannot offer better support, I do hope you are managing to cope.

Lowe

I could not agree more with Lowedal, treatment can be negative to quality of life. My mother's radical radiotherapy finished on Xmas eve, but it's still giving her trouble. that's about 14 weeks post treatment. I guess age is a major concern & any medical intervention will be based on the individuals physical strength. It's very sad that any treatment is based on this, but also fully understandable. We don't want people to be at a high risk of not being able to withstand any procedures.

If you do find the grade of tumour please let the community know. You'd have more answers, it would prove a major help & I'm sure you'd get so many responses.

Best wishes,

Graeme.

Hi Rach,

Since you've been very quiet on here, are you ok?

I'd love to hear from you.

Graeme.

Rach,

I hope you haven't lost hope because of any bad news.

We are here for you & you will get support which would help.

A problem shared is a problem halved.

It's good to talk, it takes the weight off your shoulders.

I hope you had good news, but please let us know how YOU are.

Graeme.

Rach,

I'm a little worried that you may have had news that you didn't want.

Do not dismiss the help we can provide.

And don't bottle all your feelings up, that's a sure way to become overwhelmed.

Please tell me that you are ok.

A concerned Gray.