Operation provisionally booked on 23rd April

FormerMember over 5 years ago

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Hi guys

So we had a call a couple of days ago saying that my husband is booked into The Wellington Hospital in London for his operation on 23rd April. I have mixed feelings about this. When they first cancelled his operation because of the virus I was devastated. But now they’ve rebooked it I’m so scared that he will catch it in the hospital after his operation. The op was supposed to be at Hammersmith but because there were no icu beds it was cancelled. I’m assuming that they don’t treat patients for covid-19 in the private hospitals?

I have to drive him to the hospital on the 21st April for a covid-19 test two days before the operation so hopefully that will be negative. I feel absolutely devastated that I can’t stay or even visit Rob at the hospital. Or course I understand why but the thought of not being there with him and having to stay in this house alone without him is distressing. I just want to be there to support him through this scary dreadful time. They have said that he can take his phone in with him so I’m hoping he won’t have any complications and will be well enough for me to FaceTime him at some point. This cancer and virus are separating us and i hate them both. We’ve never been apart before and we are always together.
Robert has asked me to ask how any of you felt the day after your operation? Did you feel that you could at least sit up and talk or are we hoping for too much? I feel awful about asking these questions because at least we are lucky enough to be offered the operation. So we are very grateful for that.
Im sorry for sounding so desperate again.
Stay safe and well

Judy xx

LoobyLou49 over 5 years ago

Hi Judy, you have no need to apologise. Cancer is horrible for carers too, I was worried sick with my husband's first op and it's bound to be worse for you with coronavirus around. As for being near with him, he said he needed to be alone to just 'get on with it'. I'm sure the Face Time chats with your husband will be very welcome. Being alone in the house was not a problem for me because my husband worked abroad so I was used to it. Perhaps you could organise some Face Time with friends to help you through?

Thinking of you,

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FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to LoobyLou49

Hi LoobyLou

thank you for replying to me. Yes I could face time a couple of people. I don’t like to be a burden on people but I suppose a couple of calls won’t be too bad. I will look forward to my Robs FaceTime call. I think I will relax a bit more then xxx

BrentS over 5 years ago

Hi Judy

my surgery was a while ago now and the details are largely hazy or forgotten, by me at least.

My wife visited me the evening of the surgery and Although I was drowsy I was able to chat. I wasn’t in any pain or discomfort.

The next morning I woke to see my best man sitting by my bedside. I’m not sure what lies he had to tell to get into ITU but he was a welcome sight and joked with me for a few minutes before leaving for work.

They got me out of bed into an arm chair that morning and later took me for a walk - only a few yards as I has so many attachments!
I was never in pain or discomfort and apart from finding visitors tiring I remained in good spirits the whole of my 10 days in Addenbrookes.
Things have changed a bit since my surgery six years ago, to speed recovery, but I have no problems with the wonderful treatment I had from the marvellous NHS.

As I have said before positivity help enormously, so don’t be too worried, Robert will be well looked after.

Counting the days, making every day count.

Brent

FormerMember over 5 years ago in reply to BrentS

Hi Brent

thank you so much for replying to me. I think I just had visions of him being sedated and not being able to communicate for a few days. It wouldn’t be so bad if I could just see him and hold his hand. But understandably I can’t. So hopefully I will get the chance to FaceTime him the next day. I will put my negative, distraught face away when he sees me and I’ll put my positive, encouraging face on for him. As if cancer wasn’t bad enough it’s now the corona virus added on top!! Testing times. But you’ve definitely made me feel a bit better so I thank you for that Brent xxxx

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