My dad

Hi and a warm welcome to our Community, although I'm sorry to hear about your dad. There are things that can be done to make your dad more comfortable, but the specialist is likely to be weighing up the advantages of treatment with the dangers of coronavirus. As you say, 'never a good time' and a cancer diagnosis is always a shock and I completely agree about timing. My husband had a lot of treatment, but it knocked him for six, so that will be another thing on their minds I imagine.  Did he have anyone with him when he was diagnosed? It's so difficult to think of what to ask on your own so you could try contacting his specialist nurse for information, but they are unlikely to speak to anyone other than his Next of Kin; that said, it's worth a try. Please let me know how you get on.

Thinking of you,

Thank you Loobylou.

Yes my mum and my sister were with him when he got the diagnosis, I have spoken to the cancer nurse she has been great and told me I can phone her anytime. Today she told me that my dad can have palliative care go and see him. That knocked me for 6, on the day of diagnosis they did mention to him that there is a big operation they can do but it involves moving his ribs out of the way, since then they told him over the phone that that is no longer an option. But the cancer nurse told me that they can put a stent down his throat , but at the moment it's too dangerous for him to be in hospital. It breaks my heart that I can't go and see him, and I am so worried about the pain he is in, I wish I could help him. 

Do you or someone close to you have it too or do you work in that area. 

Hi , It's good that your dad had someone with him. Yes, my husband, he's due another check on his oesophagus which is playing up again and on his prostate cancer which is starting to spread again; but his cancers were caught early.  I see so many here who have not been so lucky. I'm mostly in Carers Only. Please feel free to pop in/join and chat to some of our members.

Love and hugs,

I am a carer too for my grandson that lives with me. He has been through so much. 

Dad did have skin cancer a few years ago, but he just had it cut out, but they say this isn't secondary cancer. I'm having trouble finding my way around this site, I'm not very good with technical things. 

Hi , I can understand the difficult with navigating the site. Click on the link here to get to Carers Only. Let me know what sort of things you'd like to find on the site and I'll set up some links for you.

Thank you Looby, I have joined carers.