My partner has GOJ cancer. He has had FLOT, been for attempted surgery, had a stent placed and now is on more chemo. His current chemo is Cisplatin, Caperceptabine and Herceptin immunotherapy.
He couldn’t swallow at all before the stent and is now going through good and bad days. He can swallow liquid fine, gets some pain and is saying that it currently feels like he is swallowing razor blades when he swallows solid food!
he has some support from his chemo nurses but generally there is no support, no one has told him any symptoms he may get, why, how long they may last etc. we literally have no idea what’s happening inside or why.
They have said that he needs to go to A&E if he gets a high temperature. We have no other advice. It’s like he should just live through all pain and symptoms.
im so frustrated. He is not even 40! Can anyone give some advice… if you’re going through similar please measage me! Thank you
Hi BelleT
he will of been given a Rapid response card to ring if he has problems or temperature differences. If the pain is a lot worse then give them a ring and explain. They will be able to either advise or admit him to help. Maybe it is a problem with the stent. Give them a call. I hope it sorts itself for him to eat soon.
Sorry to hear that your experience has been so negative. What did you mean by "attempted surgery"? If he's having major problems with solids then he might be put on a purée diet or have a feeding tube to help him get a decent amount of calories.
Thank you, he had no temperature and is fine apart from feeling tired and struggling with foods.
he went for a total gastrectomy but 5hours later they found the cancer had spread, so did not do anything apart from open him up and close him. We now have another bit of hope as we have found a surgeon who is willing to do the surgery.
its just when he’s struggling at home and we don’t know what to do. If we go to hospital they won’t do anything. I took him last week as he wasn’t eating or drinking and they sent him home and said they will arrange an endoscopy for 2-3weeks time. They treat him like he has a really mild condition. I am so frustrated:(
Hi BelleT
Does your partner have the number for a chemo nurse, other than the rapid response card, or for his oncologist. These are the people he should be trying to communicate with.
For some better support or advice, please call the Macmillan number in my signature below, they are here to help and maybe able to get the right people to call your partner or indeed provide some better responses to the questions that you have.
It is tough watching you partner go through this, and it can be as draining on you as it is on him. You are very Welcome here, and you may also like to join the Friends and Family Forum Where you will find others who are trying to manage coping with this terrible experience.
Reach out to Macmillan, they will support you
Lowe'
He has his chemo privately through his work, they have a 24/7 contact number and are helpful but always just say that we should go to a&e.
our last trip to A&E last week they didn’t really know what to do because they aren’t specialists in this type of cancer! Basically perfect for someone with a broken leg!
I just feel we are so alone. I can’t belive that my partner hasn’t been told of problems that may occur etc.
(I have Type one diabetes and my specialist team are absolutely amazing)
my partners cancer team are nothing in comparison! I am completely shocked. Never felt so unsupported before :(
BelleT, I'm sorry your partner is having so little support. I can only say that mine seems to have been offered limitless support, from the moment the GP made the initial referral. There have been specialist cancer/ Macmillan nurses in every one of his appointments. They went to great lengths in detailing all of the side effects of the different treatments he was recommended, before he signed the consent forms.
Is there a difference, perhaps because of the private treatment? Does your partner have a dedicated specialist nurse? Mine has their number, a general number, an emergency number in case of suspected infection, the clinical research number and 3 different 'emergency cards' that, we are assured, will get him immediate attention if he presents at A&E, or calls for an ambulance. I'm hoping we don't have to use any of them.
I hope you manage to get the issue resolved soon.
Lorraine
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