My Dad was rushed to A+E Sunday just gone, he had stomach pains. We waited nine hours to be seen, the dr instantly looked concerned for my father’s health. He had a scan and was left in a bed in the hallway for an additional eight hours. Once he arrived on his ward he had an endoscopy, we didn’t get the results until the next day but as an ex health care worker I could tell on the nurses faces something was terribly wrong. The next day Dads doctor came to See him and confirmed the worst. They have found a large tumour at the bottom of his oesophagus, and lumps in his upper oesophagus. Additional ct scans confirmed no spread in the lower sections of his abdomen and pelvis but they have done another scan today for the upper half of his body. We have been told we will know nothing now until biopsy results have been scrutinised. My father has a very pale somewhat yellowing of the skin and my anxiety and fear is it has spread…. I can’t deal with the huge amount of grief I’m feeling. It’s crippling. He lives alone and doesn’t have any friends he just has his kids and grandson. I’m 34 years old my son is 10 I need my Dad I don’t want him to die. The nurses seem like they know more than they are letting on but then I don’t know if that’s just my emotions…it’s just torture. We have been told it will take 6-10 days before we will know anything else and just don’t know how I will keep the strength to keep positive and more importantly be my dads support. The DR told him it’s very treatable and this has given him positivity but I’m scared they are just saying that to make him feel better. There’s so many unknowns and it’s hard…
sending love and hugs, and same as clive my main contact nurse has been a rock for me, explained stuff when we came out of appointments, that had made no sense, etc, hope you dont have the situation we had, but due to an experience did ask our oncologist at the first appointment, if we could make sure maybe the nurse i had spoken to, and was actually in that initial appointment wasnt there in future. you have to be happy with what is said and how it is being said. keep us updated, lot of good honest information on here, which i would rather have, than sugar coated posts, thank you all
