Personality changes

oh your poor baby girl. It's tough on our kids even when they are much older. It's so hard to see the person they know behaving out of character or erratically.

My daughter is 23 so considerably older and latterly she couldn't cope with being alone with her dad as he kept giving her a hard time for being off sick from work due to the stress of his illness. He was really nasty to her. Mealtimes were the flash points.

This link from the main website might be worth a read Being a young carer for someone with cancer | Macmillan Cancer Support There is a section in there about feelings and emotions.

Sadly these GBM journeys rob us of the person we knew and loved. A couple of weeks before G passed away the hospice nurse took me aside as she was leaving the house to check I was ok and even she commented that I was living with a stranger. 

I tried to steel myself to it by thinking it wasn't really him and it was the GBM talking when he was snappy and nasty. That's hard enough to do as an adult and even harder for a youngster but its the truth...its not really her dad saying these things. If he realised, he would probably be upset that he had upset her.

sending you both huge virtual hugs and lots of positive energy

love n hugs

Wee Me xx

Its comforting to read this WeeMe, and so sorry for what you're going through TPK29. I am feeling very ashamed that I snapped back today, I broke under the onslaught and let rip. She's got nobody else to offload onto so I get the full force 24x7. I'm trying so hard to brush it off and keep going but the truth is I haven't known her long enough to remember kinder, gentler times that this would be a price to pay for. I know its the tumour and the stress and all of the debilitating effects of the treatment and the 4 children, I can only admire her strength at pushing through it all, but I feel like the rubble left behind. Sending hugs and hope that things get better.