Why am I so angry all the time

FormerMember
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I was diagnosed November 2018 with HCL, two months after having a stent op into my heart, the cancer showed up after full bloods were taken prior to the op...all went well, with my recovery and rehab, but now i'm not coping, I feel like screaming most of the time , am I losing my mind?....why am I so angry.

normally I'm a laid back easy going guy but of late I seem to snap at  my family members for the silliest reasons, things have got so bad Im considering walking out of my marriage, but I know its not what I want to do, I love my wife and kids so much but it seems I just keep hurting them on a daily basis, screaming and shouting about an untidy house, I mean really its not me...always been a get on with it, solve the problem type of guy. but it would seem that MR happy go luck  has left and MR Angry has moved in.

Yes my house is a mess, (we've just had a new kitchen fitted) and im trying my best to get things back to normal, with little or no help from my family (2 x step kids 19yr old son and 18yr old daughter). I cant ask much of my wife as she is dealing her chronic arteritis, so im left to do most of the work on my own, had to mow the lawn yesterday, had an angina attack, needed paramedic help, nearly had to go into hospital, spent all day resting in my room, but when I came downstairs, found the kitchen and lounge in an absolute mess, no one seemed  bothered except me was I wrong for getting annoyed at the mess, I don't feel I was but the family didn't seemed concerned at all, no one helped to clear it up, and that's why I loss my temper..(not for the first time). Makes me feel like they don't care as long as I doing the tidying up.

but I know I cant continue like this, either I'm gonna leave or the kids need to step up and help a bit more.....

What do I do....someone please Help!

(I know this may not be cancer related but I am losing this battle fast) 

  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    I TOO SHALL PASS.....funny how that makes me feel comfort none of the above really matters 

  • Hi Isolated Soul, welcome to the community. Well done for getting in touch n having a good rant. I think it's natural u will feel so angry if u  reckon it's all down to u. Have u tried telling your family - especially your grownup kids- how u feel?

    It sounds tho that your getting angry is affecting your health. How about talking to someone else about it?Have a look at "In your area" on the home page or ring the helplne 8am to 8pm 0808 808 0000 to see what's available locally, perhaps at your day hospice or a Maggie's centre.

    Above all, don't bottle it up.

    Btw, on a practical note, if for some reason u don't want the kids mowing the  lawn, can u afford to  pay someone to do it, n save yourself the hassle?

    Fear of the unknown is the worst thing. Once we know what we're facing, we find the strength to deal with it.
  • FormerMember
    FormerMember

    Hello isolatedsoul, welcome to the group, everybody here is fantastic, so they will share, their ideas, similar circumstances most of them, are either going through, or have had experience of what you are going through.   May I say, you won't be the first of the last, who have had these thoughts.  Please talk to I e of specialists on here, try, Ask an Expert.  You may find it's your medication, which is causing your cool, to boil over.  Have you spoken to your partner and the children, and let them know, this is upsetting you?.  Why don't you try the phone in, and ask your questions there.  Alternatively the How can we help you today, it's on the main page of this site.  What about calling a family meeting, speak to your partner first, so she can prepare aswell, the the children, know that you need some help.  Oh yes, take it one day at a time, have you looked to see if there are any side effects of your medication, the main thing is your not alone don't be scared, share your feelings with your partner.  Talking about what's going on will help everybody.  I am sure you have the skills to activate a solution to this problem.  Good luck and keep in touch.

    Malcolm.

  • Thanks Malcolm

    Fear of the unknown is the worst thing. Once we know what we're facing, we find the strength to deal with it.