Morning Sisterlove and welcome to our group, although your story is a sad one. I’m so sorry to read about your sister.
In my experience, the way we deal with cancer as the patient is very different to how partners, carers and families deal with it. Treatment is tough to handle and I felt I had to become more selfish and concentrate on myself to get through it. It makes you exhausted and irritable, you’re feeling unwell, in pain maybe and you just need to focus on each day.
You don’t say what treatment your sister is having, but I am assuming chemotherapy? This will be very tough for her if it is, and I can understand her wanting her boyfriend with her because it’s such a lot to cope with. With cancer, others can feel they are being pushed out, but we don’t mean to do this deliberately. I can appreciate that you want to be there for her, but things need to be on her terms. I think all you can do is let her know you will always be there for her when she needs you, but you may have to accept that she can’t handle this at the moment. You are seeing things from a very different perspective, and I know you just want to help, but she needs to do this in the best way for her.
I’m assuming you are very close? This will be hurting you, I can understand that, but she will not be doing this deliberately. All I can suggest is keeping in touch with your sister, and her boyfriend. Message them, tell your sister how much you love her and reassure her that you will always be there for her. I hope that you can see more of her when she’s able to do that. xxx
