Loneliness whilst recovering from Hysterectomy

3 replies
35 subscribers
44 views

Hi people,

Im sure alot of you are lonely too! I have a partner yet feel more alone than ever!

Not only have I had hernia repair this year but also found out I have cancer. So 2 lletz later needed a radical hysterectomy, on 9th Dec so still out of action! And to add to all that neither of my 2 children will talk to me because they dont like my partner. . .

So I am really struggling with everything oh and it's Christmas. . Family time lol or not.

I wonder what next year will bring . . More cancer? Tbh not sure i really care anymore

Holymotherforkingshirtballs8d3d4e 13 hours ago

Care! 100%. You're worth getting through this. You're enough. You deserve to recover and get well.

I'm so sorry that the people around you can't put aside their differences to be there for you. I hope they sort themselves out.

Christmas is basically over, barring eating all the leftovers... Then new year, fresh new days, longer days as we head back towards summer. Things will perk up.

And if they don't perk up ... come here and vent about it and we'll all be there for you. Stamp and shout and cry if you need to. Do whatever you need to release. Then roll up sleeves and crack on cos so many people I know who've got thru / past this have said how important a positive attitude is (along with, obviously, all the actual treatment).

Any bad day is a blip. Tomorrow will be new and as yet unknown. It can't be shit every day! Someone on one of the threads said it's turbulence, and I'm totally stealing that.

I hope that tomorrow is better for you, and the day after that better still xx

Jane75d4408e 9 hours ago in reply to Holymotherforkingshirtballs8d3d4e

Thank you.

I dont know where to go what to do i have never felt this alone. And I was put in foster care at 2 so believe me when I say ive been lonely!!!

I'd never do anything silly!! But that doesn't I dont think about just giving up why carry on!? Again I wouldn't do anything im just so sick of feeling like this and no one can help

Holymotherforkingshirtballs8d3d4e 6 hours ago in reply to Jane75d4408e

If you haven't already, do please consider counselling, or reaching out for some specific support! It can really help to talk thru things with someone!

There may be a walk-in support service at your hospital?

You can call Macmillan support until 8pm daily on 0808 808 00 00

You can self refer for free talking therapies on the NHS

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/treatment/coping-with-treatment/talking-therapies

You can sign up to receive a weekly call from a Macmillan buddy

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/get-help/emotional-help/macmillan-buddies

You can look for local services, for online or in-person groups, exercise, advice, support!

https://www.macmillan.org.uk/cancer-information-and-support/in-your-area?pcode=%7C#o=undefined

Please reach out and take any /all of the support available to you! You're not alone.

More from this forum

Loneliness whilst recovering from Hysterectomy