I phoned Mcmillan today for support after a hurtful response from a so called Friend when I messaged and asked her why she hasn't been in touch the same.
I found the response hurtful and selfish.
She started of as a befriender to me
years ago but we became good friend.
She doesn't work at the support group now.
She said when we first met her aim was to bring a bit of happiness into my life.
Which she did as I had depression
She now says that is now not working and she can't help me.
Said she had some issues at her work has since moved and loves where she is now
I can understand fully if she doesn't want to hear anything cancer related but the message cut right through me.
I haven't seen her in person for a year..
I've now asked my family and friends if they are okay with me talking cancer related things.
All said they were fine.
Mcmillan were lovely to me when I phoned and told me this wasn't my fault.
It is absolutely not your fault! Not one little bit! You really do not need friends like that in your life. I have found since my cancer diagnoses, that my friendship group has changed. I was a very social person before my diagnoses, the life and soul of the party, the one that everyone asked out at the weekend. That doesn’t happen anymore, I’m not asked, at first it really used to bother me, but it doesn’t anymore.
I think as we go through life and we make friends with people, we evolve in that friendship. Sometimes we grow separately, and the friendship runs it course. And that is ok. Her moving on has more to do with whatever it is going on in her life at the moment, and has no reflection on you or the friendship you had. I know you are feeling hurt at the moment, but your true friends will stick by you.
Sending a hug
