Struggling today

HI

So sorry you find yourself here. Nothing wrong with a good old blub, in fact I would be amazed if you didn't! Over the years since my DX I have had loads of support including a few sessions with a psychiatrist (referred by my Breast Care Nurse). I found it very useful for putting things into perspective, allowing myself to grieve but also to look forward to the new normal and how I was to make the best of it.

I would accept any offers of help and if nothing offered to demand it! You have to take care of yourself in order to take care of the children - remember put your own oxygen mask on 1st before helping others.

Your BCN should signpost you to support, failing that ask your GP.

Big hugs x

Hi noswad

I'm also first diagnosis = secondary IBC. Slightly behind you, only just found out its its secondary. But I have had counselling before as a bereaved parent. In my opinion it depends what type of person you are as to what you get out of counselling. My husband got lots of techniques for working through his emotions and feeling more in control. I found it useful to have someone to talk to who I didn't need to protect, so I could rant, cry, etc. There is only one certainty, if you don't try it you won't benefit. Give it a go, they are used to people still in shock and denial.

Thanks @Happy thoughts and , still struggling a bit today but slightly improved on yesterday. I'll definitely think about the counselling side. 

For me it helps to just focus on now. Nobody knows what the future holds for anyone. Focus on the things you can control and take one day at a time. If you want to talk about anything just message me, it doesn't have to be cancer related. We are all different and will grieve (for the person we were before diagnosis) in different ways, there is no right way to cope, see what works for you and don't dismiss anything before trying it. But don't feel you have to try everything now, set your own pace.

Sending hugs xxx

Thank you , it's good to talk to others who understand.