2WW appointment alone

I am sure your friends would be more than happy to take a day off and be with you for this very important appt.   It’s so useful to have someone there to help you digest whatever your results are .  I am taking a friend tomorrow for my results and I know she will as questions I have haven't even thought about.  You don’t have to this on your own.  Thinking of you x

Thanks Sheelagh. 
I feel like I’m being silly because it’s likely to be nothing sinister. But I know I’m worried about it. 

I might see if my sister will come with me if she can take some time off. I haven’t told her yet. We watched our cousin go through years of treatment before she passed away so my sister will understand why I’m nervous. 

When you had your 1st appointment did they give you an indication of what it might be or just do the tests? My GP said I should know something by end of the appointment.

Good luck with your results and whatever that means for you going forward. Xx 

Hi Mel_on 

I went to my appointment on my own (I had a recall and didn't think anything of it!).  I had driven 30 miles to the appointment and was more or less told it was cancer "we have serious concerns", the biopsies, the lump that they pressed and it hurt etc. - which I hadn't known about, sort of gave it away

I was a bit shell shocked, but otherwise ok and drove home fine.

The next appointment, I took my partner with me and his 'phone went off (despite telling him to turn it off before we went in) JUST as the oncologist was telling me "you do have cancer".

When the appointment finished, he got back on the 'phone to call the person back who'd called him.

After this, I attended every appointment on my own including the lumpectomy operation and the 15 days of radiotherapy.  I figured with support like that, I could do without it - it was easier to deal with my own emotions, on my own.

Yes, I had cancer, but mine was from a recall from my first ever mammogram - I do one lady who had a lump and it WAS just a cyst.  So, fingers crossed this is all you have. Good luck!!! BUT if it does turn out to be cancer, then don't immediately panic, it was a lot easier than I ever expected as I had oestrogen positive cancer which didn't need chemotherapy.  HUGE relief.  The lumpectomy operation was carried out at 4.30pm and I was home by 7.30pm the same day for instance. 

Keep us posted!

Kindest wishes, Lesley

I’m so sorry your husband wasn’t very supportive, that must have been upsetting. 

my husband is usually supportive but has a very busy life - we have our own business and he has to do a lot of travelling. He’s probably thinking like I am, ‘what if’ because I run the business. 

I’m not sure how I’ll react if it is cancer and I know I need to be prepared for that, hope for the best and prepare for the worst. 

I have had a lump checked in the clinic before but it felt very different and wasn’t painful - that turned out to be of no concern. That was a few years ago, I was a lot younger and I think things have changed since then. 

thanks for the encouraging words, it really does help xx 

Hi,  at my first appt the consultant said it was likely to be Cancer.  I had an ultrasound on the same day and the lady who did it told me it was.  They took a biopsy and of course it was.  Had MRI the following week which was when they found something in the other breast.  I hope yours isn’t but if it is we will get through it.  Let me know how you get on x

Hi again Sheelagh,

so those doing the scans told you, they didn’t wait for the consultant to tell you? That is quick. 

I know at my 3 yearly mammograms they don’t tell you anything, even if you ask if it looks clear.

Hope you’re doing well xx

I went on my own to my 2ww, as hubby not available,  even though I suspected (knew) it was cancer. No one directly told me what it was at that appointment, but plenty of hints  (nurse - if it's what we think it is....).   If you're prepared for that it helps I think.    Officially it has to be a consultant that gives a diagnosis, they won't have all the details until after the results and MDT.  Actually probably wouldn't have been worth hubby being there at that one, other than sitting in waiting area as I went in for mammogram, ultrasound and biopsy.   

Thanks Jilly, as I said in an earlier reply, I’m hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. 

he isn’t great at sitting still for long and he doesn’t particularly like hospitals so maybe it’s best if he doesn’t come

Did you drive home afterwards? I’ve never had a biopsy so not sure how I’ll feel if I have one. 

I hope your treatment is going well xx 

Yes she told me .  Actually asked me how honest I wanted her to be.  She was very kind 

I totally understand where you’re coming from .  My ex husband would have been useless and I would have been better off on my own than with him being there.  Luckily I have a very good friend who has been able to free up her time to come and be with me.