Supporting Mom through diagnosis

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Not sure on how to start so here it goes. 

My mom has been diagnosed with cancer in the left breast and it has spread to her lymphnodes. Its all very fresh and we are still in shock. She's been through a few tests and we have a meeting with her team of doctors this week and I am hoping that I can get some advice on what we should be asking and how to better to support her through this. (It's me and my Dad that are the suppport team). 

We are trying to be as positive as possilbe but being the slightly OCD person that I am, I wanted to take in questions for the appoiment incase we lose our heads a bit. What we have so far is that it is cancer but no further details. 

Tests that she has gone for so far:

CT Scan 

Bone Scan 

Contrast MRI

What are the best questions to ask the doctors? 

Any advice or guidance would be most welcome.

Thanks x

  • Hello and sorry to hear that your family is dealing with your Mom’s cancer diagnosis.  You will both be a big help during this tough time.  I was diagnosed at 71 and my tumor was slow growing which is more common in older women.  I know you want to be proactive and get questions prepared but my advice is to wait and get test results etc before getting questions prepared.  I had to hold back as until they get the resolute docs won’t have much to offer.  
    Hugs to your Mom.  

    Barbara 

  • Hi there, sounds like your mum is lucky to have you in her support team.   This information from Macmillan Questions to Ask link might be helpful for you.  I'd also recommend writing things down, both your questions and whatever they tell you. I know I forgot a lot once I left the appointment.

    Your mum is in that difficult place between having an initial diagnosis but not enough information yet. Once she gets her treatment plan it should become a little easier as you will know what you're dealing with.  Best wishes 

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