hi there, I’m hoping somebody out there can advise or give opinion about what I can do.
i’ve posted before as I was diagnosed with breast cancer, late September 2022, I had a bilateral mammoplastomy and 20 sessions of radiotherapy. The cancer was ER and PCR positive. I think quite high as they gave a figure of 8 for each. My i oncho score came back at 11, so no chemo was required, even though there was lymph-node involvement, and the cancer, much more widespread than it had shown on any of my scans preoperation, one tumour was 8cm big , another 6cm.
I was told to consider a mastectomy again but then I was told to just keep it in bag so to speak as my score was low and they had removed all the cancer they could see. At the time I was told I was post menopause so was given letrozole to take which you have been doing since January. My menopause symptoms are horrendous, anxiety, depression, low mood, bloating lack of sleep brain fog. The list goes on. I had previously been taking HRT and felt really well now when I get up in the morning ache like I’m an old lady but I’m only 54. Despite a strict diet and exercise I have gained 4 kg, the weight won’t shift - and I’m fat and can no longer fit into my clothes comfortably. Unless I exercise, I struggle with joint pain and feel like I’ve aged 20 years. Surely there is something I can take to replace the oestrogen I’m no longer allowed to take, my doctor has prescribed antidepressants but it’s a hormone imbalance. It is affecting me. I’m bloated and feel like I could pop if that makes sense? I feel a shadow of my former self and don’t know what to do , I am having counselling and they say it takes time but with an ER score as high as eight I’m limited to what I can do. I don’t want to be in this position. The aging is horrid and causing so much pain, both mentally, and physically I honestly cannot string a sentence together and some days just can’t stop crying. I’m looking at other options like collagen, and take a range of supplements but is there anything you girls have taken that’s as good as HRT? And the weight god It’s insane this has never been a problem And I’m aware it’s so bad for reoccurrence.
What a lovely upbeat reply. Menopause is hard enough without this. I met a social worker who was assessing my son because I was a health professional too she was really open with me. Told me she had a nervous breakdown at menopause, was off work for months and then got breast cancer. For me at times taking antidepressants has been the right thing, being a carer of an Autistic young man and working meant I had no time for me. Fixing oneself after this is a process, it probably takes at least a year to even start, it's massive. Rewrites everything.
It's hard for anyone to advise, I drink alcohol free beer just one every evening. Used to love wine, never thought I would give it up, it stopped tasting right as did coffee. I buy organic coffee now and use almond milk to try and reduce cows milk products.
go Sabrina and shake a leg for me. I love to dance too as feel so free. Usually put on R&B and enjoy the feeling. So glad you are getting back to it.
Barbara
Barbara
Thank you, it's my oxygen mask. My son's seizures are hard to cope with. Its such a lovely group, quite a few have health problems.
Fabulous!! I went to a party of Friday and had a good dance, it’s so good to let yourself go isn’t it. Barb, thanks so much for your lovely reply - we are hard on ourselves aren’t we, I just want to be as healthy as I can - physically and mentally, it’s just a case of repairing yourself isn’t it I guess. I’m so bloody stiff though - I feel about 90 and so very heavy, hopefully this feeling will pass xx
What a lovely group and so colorful too. Great exercise but gives so much more for the spirit. It has to be very difficult taking care of your son especially if you are not feeling 100% yourself. Inspirational to see all of you together. Thanks for sharing the picture.
Barbara
Barbara
Oh the stiffness sucks. I did my floor exercises today and felt stiff especially in my legs. I keep on plodding along as I know it is so important but there are days I feel 90 too. You are so right about repairing ourselves and getting our lives back. May certainly be different but we are survivors and that is special. Take care too. By the way I am 74 now. Breast cancer was diagnosed when I was 72 just 2 months shy of my 73rd birthday.
Barbara
Barbara
It's finding a way to get back some of what you have lost. I did a 2 hr walk with the dog yesterday, exhausting. I wake in the middle of the night these days. Had to have a sleep in the afternoon. A 90 yr old couldn't do all the walking you do.
I am going to do Pride with Marta, told myself I would do it after I got my diagnosis. Healing is a slow process. Xxx
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