Hi All,
I was told before Christmas that I had breast cancer. Biopsies were taken. I was called in for a consultation at the beginning of January and the diagnosis was confirmed. It was in my right breast and also in my lymph nodes. They had got 2 of the tests back but were still waiting for the 3rd one to come back. I was sent for an MRI and CT scan and thankfully these confirmed that the cancer hasn't spread.
However, they are still waiting for the 3rd test result to come back before they decide whether it's chemo first or surgery.
I phoned the breast clinic last week as I am getting more and more stressed and now have a lump under my arm. The clinic were lovely and reassured me that it's just from the prodding and poking but the waiting to start treatment is driving me crazy.
I feel like I'm in limbo and my life is on hold. It's all I can think about and my anxiety is going through the roof. If treatment is delayed does that risk it spreading? Am I over reacting?
I don't want to be one of those people that keeps calling and taking up the specialists time. I know I am not the only person they have to deal with and there are lots of others in a much worse place than I am but I just don't know what to do. I don't want to be forgotten about and just want to get on with it.
Any help or advice would be gratefully received.
I don’t think you are over reacting. We all go through this imagining all sorts going on in our bodies. I just wonder if the third result is the one they sometimes have to send off to US. If it is that would explain the delay. Depending on your score is whether you need chemotherapy. Trust in your team, they will be doing the very best for you. I had at least three different procedures before surgery and felt my armpit was sore.I was convinced that the cancer would have spread whilst waiting for surgery but all was fine. Finished my treatment in November apart from Hormone Therapy. Try not to worry although we all know that is easier said than done.
Thank you. To be honest I can't remember what any of the tests were for. They did tell me but I retained very little information. My problem is I'm a real planner and struggle when things are out of my control. It sends me into a right old panic. So pleased to read that you've finished your treatment and all is going well.
Hi EmmyLou
I am a planner just like you and normally the calm one in a crisis. Since having a biopsy last week after my first ever mammogram, I’m waiting for my results on Thursday, I can’t function. I can’t think straight, eat, sleep…I know this is normal but it doesn’t help does it? We just want answers and to get on with it all. I hope you hear soon, and you are not alone in your worrying xx
Oh waiting for biopsy results is the worst. The radiologist who took my biopsy did tell me it looked suspicious and said it could be cancer so that made my husband and I sort of prepared for the worst the following week. The surgeon I saw for my results just said straight away it was cancer but then went on to say how easy it would be to treat and made me feel quite positive. This did all disappear walking back to the car but I can honestly say the Breast Cancer Team were amazing and I could not fault my treatment. I am a bit of a control freak so it is hard being at the mercy of others but you can trust them. Fingers crossed that your results are positive.
Thank you x I too have been given the heads up that it is likely to be cancer. So am prepared to some extent but I just can’t get to grips with it. I feel like a pathetic mess! Can only think of the worst case scenarios. The sensible side of my brain has gone walkies!
I’m so pleased you were in such good hands.
Hello Marisa297, You are going through a rough patch right now for sure. You only know part of the answer and the waiting is an all out emotional struggle. Can really understand the way you feel as I was a hot mess. Couldn’t come to grips with it all and I know it was because I had a lot of things that changed during the diagnosis process. Seemed at the beginning when I had DCIS in one breast that I felt that I could handle it. But when they found stage 1 invasive in the other breast I went bonkers and stayed that way for awhile. Good thing my surgeon was patient with me as I was all over the place as to what I wanted to do. He was clear as to what made medical sense and he certainly was qualified but my emotions took over and caused me a lot of anxiety. But I finally got it together and had 2 lumpectomies and bilateral radiation and on Anastrazole and I am very thankful and happy. Was a challenge too as small breasted, only 34A so not much excess tissue.
We all have our challenges and just a positive word. All my worrying didn’t help me but once I made the decision with help from docs I felt much better. Try not to let your emotions run away and I understand it is not easy but it doesn’t help . Take care.
Barbara
Barbara
I did a lot of crying inbetween the biopsy and the results. It was a horrible seven days because my husband and I decided not to tell anyone until we got results. I found that so hard but my daughte was away on holiday and I didn’t want to spoil her holiday. Take a pencil and pad with you to take notes or write down any questions you might have. Keep us posted.
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