Hello all. I am waiting on a clinic date after I went to my doctor after finding one breast lump. She found two more, one in my breast, the other in my armpit. I'm so worried and feel isolated, no one to talk to, I don't want to bother my husband. I'm 56 and on HRT following a hysterectomy 6 months ago. It all seems too much.
I’m really sorry you’ve had this horrible shock just before Christmas, it’s really a frightening time to have found something and to be waiting for more investigations, really hard. Try not to pre empt the diagnosis, as hard as that is, even if it is breast cancer that can mean so many different things, such a variety of treatments, you really don’t know what may happen. Try not to google too, you’ll drive yourself nuts. It’s a shame you can’t lean on your husband and I hope you’ve a girl friend you can confide in, otherwise there’s always someone on here to offer support and a massive virtual hug. As hard as it is try and enjoy Christmas xx big hugs xx
Agree about Dr Google. Don't do it. I'm pretty sure we all do and regret it instantly. There will always be positive and negative stories that will drive you round the bend while you are in limbo.
I am the husband of a terminal cancer patient and one of the best pieces of advice I have been given is to deal with the "knowns" only, never speculate about the "mights" or "maybes". One of the hardest things about this awful situation is the periods where you are waiting for results and information and it is natural to try and fill in the blanks yourself but it only adds to the whole emotional rollercoaster effect and can be really detrimental to your mental health.
Easy to say, I know.
Thank you so much for the wise words and support. Christmas day was challenging but the grandchildren helped distract my thoughts. Hoping my appointment comes later this week. I'm seeing my mum today who knows and I'm sure it will be hard not to break down! It's going to be an emotional day. Hope you are all doing well and hugs to all.
Debbie x
Hi Debbie, I know how you feel. On Christmas eve I had a scan and mammogram and a biopsy because one of my lymph nodes is enlarged. I've got a massive lump on my breast which I discovered two weeks ago.
I'm 37 and a Mom of 4 boys and am absolutely terrified! I don't have many friends here, moved to the UK 7 years ago from Germany and just feel isolated and stuck in a nightmare of waiting. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here and all ear. xx
The waiting for results is the worst part of this. I was awful for the time from biopsy to diagnosis. Everything just kept overwhelming me. Once there is a plan in place things improve. You will have more appointments etc to deal with. Do you have anyone close who can help you? This is a great community of people who are or have faced the same things.
Rachel
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