FEELING ASHAMED OF HAVING CANCER

Atet, there is absolutely,no shame in having cancer, but I can understand that in your culture this is seen very differently. I wonder does it help you to think about some of the statistics?  They say that one in every two people in the UK will have cancer in their lifetime, so this really is an incredibly common disease.  And many types of cancer are treatable these days, especially breast cancer, and there are many examples of ladies having breast cancer snd returning to s normal life for many many years.

Have you thought about speaking to Macmillan to see what support snd advice they can offer?   It might help you to talk this through and get some support.   I wish you the best of luck with your treatment snd coming to terms with this. 

Thank you  

Hi Atet,

There is no shame in having cancer!! I am so glad that you have found this site as you will find kindness, reassure and new friends who understand what you are going through.  I know it's not the same as having people who are physically present support you but you will have everyone on this site supporting you through your journey. Sometimes culture and ignorance gets in the way of common sense! 

Which BC do you have?  I was diagnosed last Wednesday with triple negative BC 

A x

Hi Atet

Welcome to the forum and sorry to hear that you have been diagnosed with breast cancer.  As others have told you there is no shame in having cancer.

Wishing you the best of luck with your treatment when it starts.

Best wishes

Daisy53

H_Ali Thanks for your support. I was told it is grade 1 BC

Hi Atet, I don't know if this site is interesting to you but it's a campaign for women of colour to improve cancer awareness and treatment in their communities and the health service. It's www.blackwomenrisinguk.org/

-Ana- Thanks so much. I am listening to their Podcast now on Spotify and I will visit their site. 

Alet, You must feel so frightened and alone not just because you have cancer but because you haven't told your friends. The reason people have a certain view of cancer in some communities is because they are unaware of the facts of cancer or they are scared as they don't have a comprehensive health care system that is freely available to them . 

People are often afraid of things they can't control. Sone breast cancers have a 100% cure rate others around 95%  !  You have a grade 1 BC this is so treatable. Why don't you pick one friend that you trust and just disclose your diagnosis to them ? You must not be ashamed you have nothing to be ashamed of? I don't think you would be ashamed of a friend if they told you they were I'll would you? 

You can be like a strong light within your community,  show them that there is nothing to be ashamed of and nothing to be afraid of. You just have a disease that will be treated and life will go on. Be that light for your community Alet, show them  that there is nothing to be ashamed of . You can help to change attitude's and make things better for others that have to seek treatment for this disease in the futher. Changing attitudes always   begins  with strong person who seeks to make things better for others you can be that person and make other people's lives  much better X 

Hi Atet, Rose333 is trying to contact you, I will also post your name on her listing which is currently on page 3 in the hope that you both tie up.

Rose333 I understand you are trying to connect with me. How can I connect with you please.